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Me, My dad, and his family
People it involves:
Me-teesha
my mom-tonja
my dad-daven sr.
my great uncle-Uncle Tony
my dad's brother-uncle tony
my dad's cousin-keith
Problem:
Uncle Tony invited me to stay at his house for the weekend. He said he wants to take me shopping. Of course I want to go. (not just for that reason)
My dad is an alcoholic. Everyone knows it, but they just don't know how he acts when he's drunk. Only my family does. (meaning me and my mom). Well, my mom finally decided to tell some of my dad's family. Well, my uncle tony. He told the rest of the family! That's why my Uncle Tony came down. I think the only reason he wants me to go spend the weekend at his house is to question me about my dad.
Well, now my dad is saying that the only reason my Uncle Tony wants me to go is just so everyone can ask questions about my dad's drinking. I'm starting to think that's true. I want to go, but I'm not sure if I want should. I believe that if my dad didn't have anything to have, he would have no problem with me going. So I think I should go.
Should I stay home or go visit my family with the risk of having them ask me questions about him?
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I think you should go. If they ask you q's and you really don't want to answer them say "I don't know. But did you hear about who won the football game on sunday?....." change the topic and it should go through to them that you don't want to talk about it.
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I think you should go, if anyone asks you any questions that you feel uncomfortable answering or would prefer not to answer just tell them that you do not want to answer and simply tell them if they want to ask you anthing about your father they can ask him themselves.
Who knows they may not want to ask you any questions. Well good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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Go ahead and visit them. More then just wanting to pump you for information, they probably want to support you and make sure you are okay. Remember, this is old news for you, but for them it's brand new and your happiness and safety is probably one of their main concerns.
You can tell them as much or as little as you like. If they ask a question you don't want to answer you can simply say so, or in some cases, tell them to ask your mom or dad for the answer. It might help you if you decide in advance what you will or will not tell them. Play it out in your head the question s they might ask. That way you'll feel more secure, and you will only tell what you *want* to tell, if anything at all.
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i agree with the other person, but if you really don't want to talk about it, tell them that you don't want to talk about it. If they ask something, just say 'i don't no' or 'im not sure' or 'i dont remember' or just act like you didnt hear them. or you can just go out and say 'i dont really want to talk about that' and change the subject. i hope i helped! best of luck!
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First of all, you shouldn't just ignore alchohalism. SUPPOSEDLY, it's a disease. So, if they do question you, it's probably helping your dad, and there won't be the risk of losing him. That's very important, he needs help as soon as possible if you really think he's an alchohalic.
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