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Confidence/ Friends
I am going into Highschool next year, and I don't know anyone because I'm new to this area. I lack a lot of confidence and tend to make friends with girls that nobody likes, because I feel bad for them. Which doesn't help. So i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to become more confident. Or possibly any on how to make the right friends. I also receive good grades so I'm always worried people only want to be my friend because I'm smart.
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Okay ima smart kid to and nobody likes smart kids. Dont brag about grades either it makes you look stupid. Just be humble and be nice to peoplke no matter how much you dislike them. And by the way I think i know you where do u live and what is your name?Are you a girl?
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Aww. I don't even know who you are and I wanna be friends. Maybe you can do my college homework. Haha. Just kidding. Anyway, I think you should see this as a positive thing. You're in a new area going to a new school. Nobody has any idea who you were back at your old school. This is your chance to completely reinvent yourself and start over. You should have more confidence than ever.
The best way to build confidence is to constantly tell yourself uplifting things. Instead of blowing negative things up out of proportion, blow positive things up out of proportion. You probably won't believe it at first, but stick with it because it'll sink in eventually. There's an old saying I learned last year: fake it until you make it. That's what it takes to gain positivity.
You have to think of insecurities and confidence as living things. If you feed your insecurities, which you have been, it'd only going to grow. Whereas if you starve your confidence, which you have been, it's going to wither away and die. So you have to go through the motions of feeding your confidence and ignoring your insecurities even though you won't feel automatic results.
As far as friends go, when you start to like yourself (which I promise you that you will), others will pick up on that and see how awesome you are. I already think you're awesome for choosing to be friends with people that might not have a lot of friends. Don't stop doing that. Nice guys don't finish last, and I think that quality is extremely admirable. You should be proud of that.
So you're bright, smart, considerate, sweet, why exactly are you having a lack of confidence? :P
I personally think there should be more people like you in the world. :)
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Toughiee.
What you should do is just think, I dont know ANYONEE here so might as well make a good first impression! Just go for it! Dont think about what everyone will think of you. Talk to the people that look like have the most in common with you, and dont become friends with potheads! I know it is hard but just keep repeating to yourself, I can do it! I sound like Dr.Phill eh? haha no realy you dont want to be known as the shy one, so just be yourself and make friends with people that look like nice and people that will be nicest to youu.
As for the kinda loser kids you ussaly make friends with, you can still be their friend! It shouldnt matter at all! Its all good, just dont get too worked up about it, and your first day will be fabuloso! lol I realy do hope I helped!!!!!
Goooood luck :]
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