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i got drunk & my sister is upset.
so i have never been into drinking...i just graduated from high school and i got drunk for the first time ever last night. my parents aren't home (they went on vacation) and they left me & my sister with my older brother. i had a few friends over (they have all been drunk before) and along with my brother's friends, we all got drunk. it was stupid to do while my sister was there (or stupid to do in general) and i think she's really mad and disappointed in me). she's one of my best friends and i feel like i let her down...i set a bad example and she seems pissed and when i apologized and asked if she was mad she said "that's just not you." and she's totally right, and i feel like a huge let down. i know people drink so please don't give me a speech about her needing to be used to it. i just wish i could gain back my sister's trust & i don't want her to look at me differently because of what i did. what should i do?
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Men have been drinking beer since the dawn of humanity, and as far as for your sister I think the geek is just very jealous. Notice that she just makes emotional pleads, but doesn't back up anything she saids with logic and or facts so I suggest you just get her drunk with something fruity for the laddies: cool aide & vodka.
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first off, its soooooooo good that you havent been drunk before graduating! thats good in itself, because you stayed away from all the pressures that long. but neways, listen to me. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES. nobody is perfect. and although your sister is mad, there is nothin you can do to change wut you did. but you CAN change your actions in the future. sooner or later, your sister will let ur mistake go, that is, if you dont make the mistake of doing it again. but if you continue to do things that you know arent you, your sister WILL begin to lose trust in you. My favorite saying: REAL WINNERS ARE THOSE WHO DON'T GIVE UP AFTER THEY FAIL.
so wut. you failed. but change your ways. sooner or later, your sister will forget about it! =]
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I know I would react the same way if one of my older siblings did that. She's just acting normal.
And just for the record- I would never tell you to tell her to "get used to it".
I think you should apologize once more, but this time- make a promise to her and yourself. Maybe say, "I promise to you and to myself that I won't drink again until I am of age [or any other end point you wish], and if I do, you can: have my whatever she wants of yours; tell mom and dad I did it; or anything else you can think of."
Hopefully making a promise to her will help her feel better about it. If that doesn't work- ask her what she thinks you should have to do because you drank. Giving her a little say/power will definitely help her feel better.
If not- you know you tried. Sometimes earning trust back is hard to do, especially with family. Just try not to drink until you're 21- and hopefully she'll forgive you.
Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)
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Abstain from all behaviors that are negative. Do good deeds for others...Be selfless...If you want to live a life of purity then she'd admire that & it would make up for what had lost her trust.
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