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prom (sorry it's so long)
So I'm gonna be a junior in high school next year, and that means that I'm gonna go to prom. usually, most girls are looking forward to prom, right? Well not me, I'm already really worried that I won't have a date. I know it's silly, but since I'm really shy and have never had a boyfriend, I'll be going to prom alone and feel like a total loser while all my other friends have dates. I have guy friends, but none that I could really ask because THEY TOO will probably have dates/girlfriends to go with. Ahhhh I'm freaking out about this, prom is supposed to be the best night ever and I'm worried I'm gonna have a terrible time. So what I'm asking is, what can I do if I don't have a date while all my friends do? I wouldn't feel as weird if I were going with my friends, but because they're all flirty and confident, they'll probably have a lot of people asking them to prom. But I don't want to feel lonely and desperate and get turned down by a bunch of guys that already have dates.
And how can I stop obsessing over this problem, because I'm not even a junior yet?! Thanks for anyone who attempts to answer this ridiculous question, but the way, haha. Peace out.
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woah
okay so dont worry about finding a date
i know im worried about prom and im only 15
but it may not be the best day of your life
you'll grow up and get married
and have a family and you might forget about prom
personally i would try and have soo much fun with my friends even if they have dates
try and include yourself in conversations if they happen..hehe
but have fun and dont worry about it
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I totally know what you're going through since I am going through it. I'm going to be a junior, and since like May or April I had a few friends freaking out already about junior prom, that was a year away from then. All of them were worried they wouldn't have dates.
Me and my one friend promised each other if we don't have dates, we'll hang out at prom and dance anyways, not caring who out of our friends had a date or not. See if maybe there's a friend of yours that is thinking the same thing you are. The one thing about my friends is that half of them are totally obsessed with the fact that they need to have dates, even if they don't.
I wouldn't be too worried about it though. I mean it is a year away (like the person below me said), so you have plenty of time to see if maybe you'll get a date by then. If anything you can always go by yourself, and have a great time. A girl who is turning a senior said prom was overrated really, and totally not worth having a date since you're suppose to "save that" for senior prom.
Just wait and see what happens. Don't try to think about prom too much. You'll probably find out that a lot of people are in your position. I am not for nothing, and know what it feels like to totally go through that phase of, "I hope I have a date, I'll look like a total dork if I don't have one since I'll probably be the only one without a date". Don't think about it like that! Think I'm going to prom to have a good time with my friends, and who cares what other people think if I'm by myself.
It's totally normal to be going through what you're going through, but probably by the time prom is over, you'll be like why was I so nervous about that? It'll end up turning into one of those things.
I hope this helps you, and good luck. :)
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I'm a rising senior, and trust me, prom is overrated. It's just a fancy version of any other middle school or high school dance except only open to juniors, seniors, and their dates.
Don't get me wrong, prom was fun and I had a great time with my friends. I didn't have a date and it was more fun for me because I wasn't stuck with one person and got to mingle and dance with more than just one guy. Going to dances dateless isn't as bad as people make it seem. Sure, it's prom and would probably be a lot nicer to have a date, but it's not the end of the world if you don't.
What's worse is when you and a friend promise to be each others date then he gets a girlfriend and doesn't want to upset her by going with you (talking from experience). I made the best of it and you can too! I didn't mind him going with her since they were dating (if you were dating a guy who was going to prom with someone else it'd be weird..)
Anyway, I'm sure you won't be the ONLY one without a date. Besides, you have an entire year to get a date.
If you're THAT desperate, ask a sophomore. They won't get to go any other way. But make sure it's a friend who wouldn't ditch you when you get there. I know a senior whose boyfriend is a (excuse my spelling) jahovis witness and isn't allowed to go to prom because it's some sort of social event. She took a family friend who I think was a freshman and they had a great time.
Anyway, whether or not you have a date prom will be fun. Think of it as a more expensive homecoming dance with fancier clothes.
Even if you're the only single person there amongst a group of couples, it can still be fun. Being the 3rd wheel, 5th wheel, etc. sucks, but if that starts to happen just pull your friends aside and let them know how you're feeling.
This year my friends and I were all so excited about going to prom, we thought it was going to be some AMAZING event. Nahh, it's cool and all, but totally overrated. If I could do it over I'd probably only go to my senior prom. That's the one worth going to. Junior prom was fun, but senior prom is going to be awesome. With or without dates. =D
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