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dealing with a partners attempt suicide
my fiance attempted suicide after his business collasped and financial difficulties putting a huge stress on our relationship over a period of a year, he was admitted to a pyhsciatric hospital voluntary for approx 3 wks. I hv visited on a couple of occasions but find it really difficult, l dont know what to say or do, l want to give him a cuddle but find it really difficult. I hate going to the hospital and l just dont know how to handle this whole situation, l think about what it will be like when he comes home, how will l handle that, l think will it ever be the same again, l would like to know how other people handle this situation please and would appreciate any advice. THANKYOU
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I don't know if you are aware of this, but men in particular tend to derive their self-worth from their job and their ability to 'provide' for their family. Therefore, when something happens with their job they are much more effected then women (I'm speaking generally here, obviously, but there are reports to substantiate this).
So, your fiance may be prone to depression already, and then the job troubles just sent him over the edge.
I'm telling you this so you can understand, and try not to harbor resentment towards him for his attempted suicide. Also, it will be good for him to know this as well to try to prevent a future relpase into depression. He (and maybe you too) should get some counseling. And they are probably already trying out diffferent meds on him. Be patient, it can take time to find the right meds- but most people do get better with treatment.
As for you dealing with this, if you love him then be strong and hang in there. You may find yourself having problems one day and would want him to be there for you wouldn't you?
As long as he's trying to get better and making that effort- I would support him. Nobody is perfect and real love doesn't come by very often.
OF course, this is my opinion, you have to decided what you can deal with.
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That is really tough and I am sorry that happened to you. The best advice that I can give if you feel like its hard to go back to what things where like before then don't. Try moving apart (if you lived together) and starting your relationship from almost point 1 again because over that time you both have grown and changed. Start it out simple with just like dinner and movies and move at your own pace back into his life like things were before. This will give you guys a chance to talk things over more simply and less awkwardly and give you a chance to be alone because you both may need your own space for a while to recollect yourselves and thefore rebuild your relationship
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I'm really sorry to hear about that. Suicide in any form is incredibly difficult to deal with. Right now, there's not much you can do except be there for him in whatever way he needs. Try and make him feel comfortable and relaxed. It's going to be hard for him to come home as well. You're right in saying things will never be the same, but you can make them better. Just be the best person you can be towards him and don't pressure him into talking or anything. Listen. Alot of times, people just want someone to listen. Not speak or give advice, just sit there and hear what they have to say.
I wish you both the best of luck!
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