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I Fear for My Parents' Lives
Myself - 16/f
My Mom - 51
My Dad - 60
I realize my parents are getting older, and it scares me to no end. My parents haven't smoked for years but they used to, my dad needs knee surgery but won't get it and they both get very little exercise. My mom walks a lot, but my dad really doesn't do anything. Every time we go out, I can't help but worry that something might happen to them.
Everytime I think of something happening to them, which is everyday, I just start crying. I haven't even seen another teenager for the last two weeks because I have been spending everyday with my parents. I take as much time as I can to be with them but it never feels like enough. I'm so scared for them and it makes me so emotional.
Please help me find a way to cope with this, thanks. The one thing is, I will never talk to them about it or go to a therapist. If that was what you wanted to tell me, sorry in advance.
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Your parents are lucky to have a child who loves them so much and cares about their well-being.
However, I'm sure that your parents also want the best for you, as you do them. It would pain them to see that you are causing yourself so much worry and not enjoying your teenage years on their account.
Listen, we all have people that we love dearly and wish that we could help. People that drink too much, don't eat right or excersize among many other things. But you can NOT change someone. The most you can do is love them, guide them, and support them. But ultimately, they have to be the ones to make any changes and are responsible for their own choices in life.
You can talk with them honestly about how you feel, and that might help some. But don't expect that you will be able to turn their whole lifestyle around. Instead, try to be as supportive and encouraging as you can, beyond that, love them for who they are. Then try loving yourself a little more!
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there's no way of having this problem solved if your not willing to tell your parents, especialy you father, how much it scares you that they dont try to take better care of themselves. sorry but i dont like admiting what scares me either but this might be you chance to make a difference.
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I kinda know how you feel. My mom is soon-to-be 51 and my dad is 54. I'm 18. Every now and then, I worry about them like you. There's not that much you can do for your dad, except keep on his case about the surgery. I know they seem old, but not really. They probably still have 20+ years ahead of them if they really try to take care of themselves. You should enjoy your time with them, but don't forget about your friends. Like the person below me said, you could balance your schedule to hang out with both your parents and friends. Another thing you could do is talk to them about how you feel. I know you said you wouldn't, but I think it would really help. No need to see a therapist about it. But you should tell them how you feel. Believe me, you'll feel a lot better about it. And remember, they're not that old yet hahah, just enjoy the time you have with them. :]
Hope that helped.
xo erin
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schedule your days. spend 2 or 3 days a week with them during the week with them and one day a weekend, then spend the other days with your friends. it might not feel like enough, but trust me, your parents think anything more than 5 m inutes at your age is a miracle. if you want them to get more excersize, when you're with them, suggest you all go for a walk down the street or something. don't be so worried, though. people live so much longer these days than they did before. your parents wouldn't want you worrying about them and not hanging out with your friends. watching you live your life will make theirs a lot more enjoyable.
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