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anyone can answer but would appreciate a guys answer :)
how do you stay bestfriends with a guy: i know this guy who is only bestfriends sometime: we flirt alot but we both know that were only friends& it doesnt mean anything:: like what could i say to flirt with him but for him to know its only a friendship?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
1. go out in groups
As much as you hate to care what others think about you, if you and your best guy friend go out alone all the time, (a) other guys might back off because they’ll think you’re boyfriend-girlfriend, and (b)people will constantly ask if you're a couple-annoying! Point is, you're not a couple, so limit the time you spend doing couple stuff. Not to say that you can't see a movie together now and then, but guy friends are better in groups!
2. keep the affection in check
Even if he's never thought of you that way, and you've never thought of him that way, too much touchy-feely stuff starts to put the idea in his (and/or your) mind. It may be tempting to give him hugs or put your head on his shoulder, but it blurs the line between friends and more. Sure, he's the perfect stand-in for when you absolutely need a date, but don't treat him like a stand-in boyfriend, okay?
3. don't ask for dating advice
Guys don't discuss the minute details of their romantic relationships with each other like girls do, so they don't expect platonic girl friends to either. If you do, he'll get confused. He'll either think you want him to be the hero who saves you from your evil boyfriend, or he'll start picturing you in couple scenarios-which doesn't bode well for the whole platonic thing, if you know what we mean!
4. don't give dating advice
If he's seeing someone, you're going to form some opinions about her. But hold back the advice (and if he asks, try not to judge her). Nothing will kill your friendship faster than if you bad-mouth his girl after their fight and then they make up two days later. You can't take back your words, and his GF will hate you forever. If he has to choose between his girl friend and his girlfriend, you'll lose.
5.let him down easy
If he admits he likes you-but you don't feel the same-be honest and direct so he knows you won't change your mind. Say, "I love our friendship, but for me, that's all it is. I don't want to lose that, but if you feel like we shouldn't hang out for a while, I understand." Then respect him by acting friendly-not flirty.
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Im not a guy BUT i do have a bestfriend who is a guy. Um why would you want to flirt with your bestfriend? Usually when you flirt with someone it means a bit more than friendship. A bestfriend, wether is a guy or girl, is someone you trust and enjoy being yourself around. Me and my bestfriend have like almost everything in common and no conversation is ever boring or awkward. You cant really flirt with a guy without them thinking you want more then a friendship. Or you could say "im flirting with you but only as friends". Do you like this guy? Like you cant really make someone your bestfriend you both just decide that you 2 are good friends and hes the one you trust out of all your friends.
My advice which is totally off the question is: Dont TRY.
It seems like your trying to make him your bestfriend and trying to make him want to be it. Friends are just supposed to love you for who you are and you don't have to change anything about yourself to make them like you.
If hes only a bestfriend sometimes, then he isnt really your bestfriend. a bestfriend is someone who is ALWAYS your friend not just a temporary resource.
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