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was I rude?
17/f
I was on a website and I posted a picture of me and asked for opinions on what people thought of it. I'm the type of person who can handle any and all opinions no matter how nasty they are.
A girl posted a reply to my question saying I looked fake and I was trying to be "hardxcore." I sent her the following message to let her know a little about me and explain to her that I'm not fake.
Here's the message:
"I'm not trying to sound rude or anything, but I don't think you should be calling someone fake unless you know for sure they are. Like I said in response to your post, I've dyed my hair like that WAY before any other girl did, I actually started around the 6th grade and I'm now a senior in highschool. I didn't START the trend, I know, but I did start it in MY school. I live in a small country town where no one even knows the latest trends until they go out of style. Other girls started to copy me, that's why I dyed my hair one solid color so I WOULDN'T be called fake. I'm also not a "poser" like other girls are, thinking they're "hxc" and all, I don't think I am at all. I know that I'm more outgoing and daring than other girls, but I don't give myself that label. Like I said before, I wasn't trying to be rude I was just letting you know a little about myself to let you know I'm not "fake" like those other girls. I'm actually probably the most "real" person you'll ever meet, to be honest with you."
She then went on to post a really nasty comment on the message boards saying I was a b*tch and that I couldn't handle anyone's opinion and that I should get off the site. She was the ONLY person I sent a message to even though there were comments that were 20 times worse than hers.
Did I sound like I was trying to be rude and do you think she should have reacted that way? I just wanted to explain myself to her.
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i don't think you were rude at all. you were just telling her not to label it and you did say a few times that you weren't rude. i think it's a good thing you stood up for yourself and didnt let her label you. i think its different calling someone ugly and labeling them like a hard core if you dont really know them. you weren't trying to be rude and if she really read it she would understand it. don't worry about jerks that think they are cool by trying to get you mad, just brush it off; haha (: hope i helped
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No you aren't rude at all. She's just trying to get a rise out of you. Just ignore her comments and the others, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone who's that much of a bitch.
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I don't think you were being rude.
Maybe you should've just not said anything.
But it's a good thing you did.
There will always be people that want to judge you.
Just ignore them.
:D
Hope I helped.
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You asked for an honest opinion, I guess you didn't really want one. She gave you her honest opinion, the truth hurts sometimes but you asked for it. You shouldn't have sent her the message, I don't know why you think she'd care. (I'm not defending her, just trying to make you understand that being defensive doesn't help)
And no offense, but your message does sound kind of fake. There's really no such thing as starting a trend, only designers do that, and really, if you have to insist so much that you're not fake and actually say that you're "real", well, that's not a good thing. Most real people don't insist so vehemently.
Obviously she's looking to pick a fight, ignore her. On websites like that you shouldn't bother to explain yourself or respond. I'm sorry that happened to you, but I'd recommend just moving on. If you ignore her, chances are that after a bit, she'll stop.
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No, you weren't being rude at all. You were only trying to explain yourself, and what you said didn't sound rude at all. That girl was being a b*tch. Just try to ignore her. :]
xo erin
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