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I like my best friend, but he has a girlfriend
Hi. Im 16 year old girl and i've been "in love" with my best friend for ages. we hang out all the time. i know everything about him, and he knows everything about me. we have so much in common and we have so much fun together.. but he recently asked out this girl and well.. now their a couple. now i dnt know this girl.. but i dnt like her haha. nah not really but im really jealous. Now i saw some other columns and they say that i shud be supportive.. but i need advice on how to be that for him. every time her name comes up i feel like crying.. i try to be supportive and be happy for him but when i get home.. i cant help but cry. he's such an awesome person and he deserves someone so great.. but i want it to be me. we've talked about our "feelings" for each other heaps (before he was going out with her)and he kept sayin how it would be awkward if we went out BUT IT WOULDNT BE! He always flirts with me, and hugs me, and holds my hand when we watch movies. All my friends say that he is using me and that he isnt worth my time, but he is. he is really sweet, caring, sensitive and funny and i cant help thinking about him at every waking moment.. i cant tell him how i feel because he likes this girl, and i dnt wanna hurt him by telling him and ruining our friendship.. so i need advice on how to slowly get over him and stop pretending that "fate will bring us together eventually" because ive been believing that for too long, and the disappointment is hurting too much.. and i dnt wanna have to completely shut him out of my life forever because i cant be a good friend to him. Please help me the best u can. (btw im really sorry that this question was so long and by typin this im makin it longer but i didnt know how to write it any other way)
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awww, first off, i say that this boy is NOT using you, especially if you two have been friends for ages. and you really do just need to be supportive of their relationship. i know it's probably hard to be. and it sounds like he's leading you on. he probably only see's you as the friend type and just doesn't want to mess up you guys' friendship. here's what i say (: you two can deffinently still be friends! but it sounds like you just need to start having girl nights. (: you know, invite your friends over! watch a movie, eat popcorn, icecream, soda, chips, bake a cake, talk. another good thing about having your friends over is that you can deffinently vent to them (: AND, you can start talking to other guys, i'm sure you already do, but start talking to them more, just as friends. you know? (: maybe one of them will see you as more than a friend. and maybe you'll turn out to like eachother. but the point is, it's just going to time to get over him. i promise you will eventually. well, i tried the best i could. good luck, dear (:
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Lol its okay if its long i dont mind. I had a problem with this guy who i was really good friends with once but one of my besties liked him and i ended up never telling him how i felt and i regreted that for a long time.
You might feel bad because you never really got the chance to be with him and now hes with someone else and you don't really want to be the bad person and break that up. You might just need to tell this guy you like him, even though he is with someone right now. Sometimes people will date other people because they don't think that the person they like, likes them back.
He probably doesn't want to lose the friendship you have because he treasures you alot. If you love this guy then give it one last shot. Tell him how you feel and say you like him and you wanted to tell him for so long.
I think your a great friend and you'd probably be a great girlfriend. If you have a gut feeling that he likes you then tell him you love him! It's better to atleast try then to regret it. If your supposed to be with him then it's going to happen. I believe in fate to ^^ lol. Even if it doesn't work out, it will take some time to get over him but you can still maintain that close friendship you have. If you just want to get over him then it will take time. You need to just cry your heart out, let all those feelings out, then think positive. Have a girls night in with some of your close girlfriends just watching movies and eating junk food to help you cheer up. There is a million guys out there and the perfect one is waiting for you so don't get upset over one guy even if it seems like he is your one and only because odds are your going to meet other guys who you could have a greater connection with.
Your friends are just looking out for you and i guess in a way trying to get you to stop liking him so you can move on. I hope it works out with this guy and if you love him just tell him! Your not being a bad person your just saying how you feel!
I hope that wasn't confusing lol and just think positive on those days where you feel like crawling into a hole and crying. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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