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Annoying Friend
Okay, so I'm going into 8th grade after Summer this year, and I want to make new friends. Problem is -- I have one particular friend that makes it hard. Really hard.
Like she'll get really mad whenever she hears I've gotten together or made other plans with other friends (even if it's my cousins!) and insist or invite herself to come with.
But she's friends with this other girl that I'm also friends with, and we were all supposedly close through 7th grade. I've been friends with the girl that makes it hard to make friends (Let's call her A) since halfway through kindergarten!
The thing is, that A thinks we're still BFFs, and no matter how many times I try to tell her, I get the same result. She's like "No I don't!", we get into the occassional fight, then get back together. But this time I don't wanna get back together. I never really did. It's not that she's a bad person or anything... it's just that I can't be friends without her holding me back. I know I must sound really unloyal but I want a new group of friends, and fast! In time for 8th grade.
Luckily -- There's a possibility we won't be going to the same highschool. I'm willing to wait and all, because once I get there it'll be GREAT, but I just don't know what to do. What if we do end up going to the same highschool? Odds are we wouldn't have many classes together anyway.
Evidently I just need new friends, you don't know my past with her... and it's come to light that I really need to tell her. I can't just expect her to know why -- but how do I tell her?
How do I tell her the friendship should be cut off?
How can I branch out for friends in 8th grade?
(I go to a Private School so it's pretty small and not a lot of people, mostly just the same people that think I'm weird I think)
I want 8th grade to be perfect, I really do. So how can I make it that way?
--Many thanks!
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well i can't anser your cutting friendship off part
but in order to make friends you can go to camps this year go to movies or the mall and just socialize
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Uhh, well you got to tell your girl that all she's being right is ANNOYING AND CLINGY. Tell her you need some space too, and that you want to make some new friends too. Just tell her the truth and be blunt about it. Don't try to sugarcoat your words and make it seem like you're not serious. Because if you've already tried to explain this to her before, it's time to get harsh, unfortunatly.
Tell her that EVERYONE needs space and that she's been invading your breathing space for a long time and now it's time for you to take a DEEEEP breath.
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Tell her that you NEED some space away from her, that she's being clingy. She's most likely afraid of losing you as a friend, and this is her way of coping. She needs to know how you feel. You don't have to brake the friendship if you really like her as a friend. Just tell her you ARE going to hang out w/ other people,and if she doesn't understand, I would brake the friendship, for good. If its to the point where your HOPING that you have different schools so she won't be around, just say you need your space, desperetly. Tell her to leave you ALONE. GO FIND NEW FRIENDS.
It might be tough, but do you want your freedom?
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You shouldn't wait until high school...I can TOTALLY relate except me and her have been friends since 1st grade...this person doesnt really sound like a friend to me...SHe sounds like a person who just is annoying to you...tell her...just say that you feel as if you aren't the friends you used to be and that you are a different person now...now ways to make new frinds...are you taking an elective next year...that can be a class that you have alot of fun in...so meet people you have fun with in that class...and your other classes! meet new people at lunch...whatever you want!
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No problem, just hang around new people :)
It can be easier if you think.
Have you heard about the celebrities that used to be shy and made fun of? But then they overcame all that and got what they wanted.
You can do that too.
Why wait until Highschool?
If you break off a 9-yr friendship, chances are, you'll get back together. Especially if you have previously like you explained. Just tell her by words from YOUR mouth. She doesn't wanna hear it from anyone on this website, 'kay?
And as for the 8th grade being perfect fling, what's up with that? Nothing is perfect, and if you make the year too, too perfect then you'll only miss it more. Especially since you'll be a freshman after unless you get held back or something.
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