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Age: 16
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my mom wont let me out. she gets mad even if i go to my friends house. since its summer vacation i dont want to stay in my house all bored. but she doesnt let me go out. i dont have cable, im an only child, and the only thing is the computer but i hate playing games in it and a computer cant entertain me for 12 hours a day. what can i do at home thats fun for me? or how can i make my mom let me go out. im tired of staying here. thanks! (link)
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You might as well be under house arrest. :) Talk to her, tell her that you need to go hang out with your friends. Its not normal for your mom to make you stay at home all day during summer!
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Okay, so I'm going into 8th grade after Summer this year, and I want to make new friends. Problem is -- I have one particular friend that makes it hard. Really hard.
Like she'll get really mad whenever she hears I've gotten together or made other plans with other friends (even if it's my cousins!) and insist or invite herself to come with.
But she's friends with this other girl that I'm also friends with, and we were all supposedly close through 7th grade. I've been friends with the girl that makes it hard to make friends (Let's call her A) since halfway through kindergarten!
The thing is, that A thinks we're still BFFs, and no matter how many times I try to tell her, I get the same result. She's like "No I don't!", we get into the occassional fight, then get back together. But this time I don't wanna get back together. I never really did. It's not that she's a bad person or anything... it's just that I can't be friends without her holding me back. I know I must sound really unloyal but I want a new group of friends, and fast! In time for 8th grade.
Luckily -- There's a possibility we won't be going to the same highschool. I'm willing to wait and all, because once I get there it'll be GREAT, but I just don't know what to do. What if we do end up going to the same highschool? Odds are we wouldn't have many classes together anyway.
Evidently I just need new friends, you don't know my past with her... and it's come to light that I really need to tell her. I can't just expect her to know why -- but how do I tell her?
How do I tell her the friendship should be cut off?
How can I branch out for friends in 8th grade?
(I go to a Private School so it's pretty small and not a lot of people, mostly just the same people that think I'm weird I think)
I want 8th grade to be perfect, I really do. So how can I make it that way?
--Many thanks! (link)
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Tell her that you NEED some space away from her, that she's being clingy. She's most likely afraid of losing you as a friend, and this is her way of coping. She needs to know how you feel. You don't have to brake the friendship if you really like her as a friend. Just tell her you ARE going to hang out w/ other people,and if she doesn't understand, I would brake the friendship, for good. If its to the point where your HOPING that you have different schools so she won't be around, just say you need your space, desperetly. Tell her to leave you ALONE. GO FIND NEW FRIENDS.
It might be tough, but do you want your freedom?
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16/f. So there is this guy that I'm good friends with, and I like him. I talk to him online all the time and we always make plans to hang out with each other, but the plans just never work out! I'm not even kidding. There's always something that just, like, gets in the way and I hate it! We both work, so it's hard to find hours that we're both available. Now that school's out, I haven't even seen him in person in 2 weeks, and you know, I think we'd have a better chance of becoming more than friends if we hung out together... but it just never works out. Should I just take this as a sign that we're never gonna work out together? Or should I just constantly keep asking him to hang out with me, which will eventually probably get really desperate and annoying lol. (link)
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Well, if you guys are good friends, he would understand if you guys were constantly trying to make plans with him. See if he's also trying to set days to hang out, and not just you. Then, you would know if it was just you being "desparate' to hang out with him. If it's just you, give him some alone time, and if he likes you, friend or something more, he'll call you and set something up. I would keep going for it!
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I want to go to Confession so badly. I just want to feel more clean and worthy of God, but I don't know how I can go. I'm Catholic and so is my family, I'm a very strict Catholic but not to a huge level. The only time I EVER go to Confession is when my school goes. My school is a Catholic School so we go like once every school year. I would feel embarassed to go up to my mom and just say "Can we go to Confession?". I don't know why. I'm not embarassed about my faith at all, in fact I'm proud. In fact I'd love to just wear a necklace with a cross to advertise my faith in school because my friends aren't very faithful. Or at least they don't act like they care about God which bothers me SO MUCH! And then one of them just says "Since when do you care about giving things up for Lent?" I'VE ALWAYS CARED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT JUST GETS ME SO MAD I'M SORRY. Anyways, how do I go to Confession without asking my parents? Is there something I could do? I want to go to one Priest in particular. How can I do that?
Thanks. (link)
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You could always have some prayer time to yourself, in your room, and confess to God of whats bothering you. Time alone with God just might be the answer. If you feel that you have to go do it with a priest, without your parents, maybe ask a friend to take you over? If their your real friends, they should understand, even if they aren't very faithful. Yes, it could be akward if they aren't very ok with it, but would you rather be with them, or your parents? Are your parents strong catholics? If you feel you need to go to confession, and you have no other choice, I'd go with your dad or mom.
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Sometimes my mom can be my best friend, but often she takes it way too far. She'll ask me very private questions, won't let me have time to myself, and whenever I don't get invited somewhere she pesters me to basically admit to her that I'm a loser. She's always making me feel worse about myself asking questions like "Why does no one like you? Why don't they invite you places? Why are you sitting home alone again?" I quit cheerleading a few months ago (she was totally against me quitting it) so now she always tells me if I stuck with cheering I'd actually have friends. This really hurts.
I've tried asking her to stop, but then she just tells me I'm too sensitive and to get over myself. I'm not sure what to do about her anymore. (link)
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Sounds like your mom is just trying a little too hard. She probably just sees it as her way of helping you out, and doesn't realize what she's doing to you. If it's to the point where she's insulting you to your face, tell her to back off. She doesn't have the right to be that controlling. You should try to sit down with her, and have a serious talk with her. If she's asking those kinds of questions, its not you being sensitive at all.
hope I helped.
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15/f. i know that in order to lose stomach fat you need to eat healthy and do cardio. so i already eat healthy, and my stomach is almost flat, but not quite there yet. so what is some cardio exercises that i can do in my house?
I already do about 150 crunches and 100 bicycles everyday, but now i'm reading that this wont get me a flatter stomach, it will just build muscle. so what can i do differently? and i would like it to be something that i don't need to buy and can do indoors. thanks :] (link)
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http://www.colonhealth.net/free_reports/h2oartcl.htm
Something that will help is drinking 8 glasses of water a day.Yes I've bet you've heard this before, but it has worked for me. During marching practice for band, I'd usually drink around a gallon of water a day, and I did lose a ton of weight.
Another thing would be to do some stretching to loosen up your muscles and joints. Stretching will increase your heart rate, which in turn will help brake down fat faster.
:)
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what should i get my best friend for her birthday?
specifics:
-shes turning 17
-and i dont want to get her something like a friendship neclace or braclet, something else.
any ideas? thanks! (link)
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What kind of things does she like? I imagine anyone would like a giftcard or some money, but since she is your best friend, try to think of something thoughtful. Anything that would remind her of times you guys have hung out, or done something silly would be the perfect thing. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, just meaningful.
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