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confused/love?
okay well I need very good advice on this quesitons so please try to understand my situation. Okay, well my pretty good friend is going out with this guy. I use to like him when I was around 9 but now I'm 14 & he's 15.. Well, they have been going out for about 2-3 weeks now. Well, me & him started talking through aim and stuff & I ened up telling him how I crushed on him before. A day later he tells me he "thinks" he likes me. So we talked,talked,talked blah & blah. Then he called me once & we stared talking for a long time & we finally got to know each other & figured out we have A LOT in common. & we were talking like a "couple" even though they are going out. But don't think I'm a man stealer or anything. He told me wayyyy before he even liked me that he was thinking of breaking up with her but doesnt know how. He tells me how she's like freaky taking about how she did "stuff" before & we all know thats a lie.I mean she's my friend & all but she's also been known to be a fakie. Anyways he's at some thing or whatever in Kentucy or whatever. & since his "girlfriend" is my friend she's been telling me how she really really misses him & how he's not calling while all this time me & him have been talking to like 3 in the morning & texting the whole day. This has been going on for about a week now. So I Guess what I need advice on is your opinion about the situation. Also, I dont know what I'm going through becasue i never felt like this before. He's been very nice to me telling me he loves me & stuff[ I know you cant love someone that soon but its out thing if you know what I mean]. So I'm wondering what is this I'm feeling becasue I'm like checking my phone every damn second to see if he called or if i acidentally missed the call or something. Uhh i'm so confused. He's like you know we could make such a cute couple & I really want to go out with you after I slowly settle things down with "her". Bit I told him is it right to do this to her becasue It's a chick thing & she's my friend would she hate me?I really need advice & help on what you think this phase is. He calls me his babe & how he just wants me by his side & such adorible stuff. Please don't tell me how would you feel if you were her becasue first I'm not her & he feels different about me then he does with her. So please please people give me advice on what to do and what I'm feeling. & should I go out with him?
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Your not going to like this. But if I was your friend I would HATE you for going out with someone I had feelings for. Best frineds arent suppose to do this. Like I *WAS* friends with this girl, well she went out with the guy I liked so bascially she stole him from me in a way. Were not friends anymore. And honestly I cant get over her stealing him. If your friend really likes him, I wouldnt do it. I wouldnt go out with him. I know it will be hard to not go out with him. But on the other hand maybe your friend wouldnt really mind as much. But if you really want to go out wit him, and you would risk it..I would wait awhile to do anything and make it offical. Wait it out. See how she feels. Example: IM her call her which ever you want to do and say somehting like "If your frined ever went out with him would you be mad?" Ask her how she'd feel if you went out with him. Ask her how she'd feel if you had any sort of feelings for him if she would be mad. Just keep in mind she can be lying about saying she doesnt care when deep down she really does.
I know this is probabaly not what you wanted to hear. But I tried my best to explain to you both point of views.
If you need anything else or if you need me to explain something. just leave one in my inbox.
Hope this helped !!
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You have to talk to him about your friend. Lets call her Sarah.
She likes him, right? And you still want her to be your friend, correct? Then you have to get him to break up with her asap. She'd hate you if she found out that he was saying to you. Make him stop acting like you're a couple for now. Wait until they break up, and then tell him he can treat you how he has been. Wait like a week and a half minimum until you make anything official. She'd hate you if you didn't respect her like you aren't right now.
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I was in your situation, but I was very luck to have a forgiving friend. Just be honest with her and tell him that if he wants to be with you, then he'll have to end things with her.
Of course she'll be upset -every girl would.
But I'd suggest you just back off from him for a while and just let him now what your feeling, and don't hide the txts and calls from your friend because eventually she will find out and it won't end well.
BASICALLY: Be honest with yourself, your friend and him.
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This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I think that what you're doing is unfair to your friend.
I realize you've liked him before, but that was in the past & that's where it belongs. By developing feelings for him again, you're making things diffucult for their relationship.
Your friend likes him, so you should respect that & back off. Don't you feel bad? Don't you feel any ounce of guilt for what you're doing & what you've been doing?
Chances are, when she finds out about how you've been texting her boyfriend, IMing him, & calling him behind her back, she's going to hate you. But she's not only going to hate you for that; she's going to hate you for telling him that you love him too. But you're not the only she's going to hate, she's gonna hate him too.
So all in all, no, you should NOT go out with him. If you care about your friend, your reputation & yourself at all, you'll back off of this kid & stay out of their relationship.
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ok i was in your exact situation. he told me he loved me while he was still going out with his girlfriend and i fell for it. after him and his girlfriend broke up we quickly went into a sexual relationship. people found out, including his ex girlfriend and i lost a lot of friends. nobody trusts me anymore and the guy and me aren't together anymore. in fact he said it would be easy to end our relationship because there were "no strong feelings involved" now maybe your guy isn't the same but the situation is very similar. if he truly loves you and is not even hinting that he is only using you then go ahead and be with him but im warning you, these relationships rarely go well.
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