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How to get her to say yes.
So this September, my mom and I have decided we're going to take a cruise to Bermuda. There is only one thing that is holding us up to buy tickets, finding someone to come (as in one of my friends). Well, the problem is I don't have a LOT of friends, but I have a good amount; and none of them can afford this. So I would like my boyfriend to come along, and I have been with him for 1 year and 9 months; so it is not like she doesn't know him. (I'm 15/f he's 17/m) Well, I'm having difficulties on how I should prove to her that she can trust us. April of 2006, I had a pregnancy scare, and she has mostly given us our trust back. But, since then, my period has been regular, never late, and I have not done anything with him for her to not trust us since that one mistake. I've also been helping her out around the house a bunch for the past few months. So I think these things should prove to her that I am responsible now, and I know what to do and what not to do. I've been honest with her about everywhere that me and my boyfriend have gone, and what we have done while we were out. He is the only one that can afford to go on this cruise with my us. Also, on September 18th, it will be our 2 year anniversary, so I think it would be a great way to spend our anniversary. He will be 18 by then, and I will still be 15, but I'll be turning 16 in November. So my question is, what can I or my boyfriend and I do to get her to allow us to go together on this cruise?
Thank you so much, and thank you for taking your time to read.
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I see where your mom would be coming from if she said no, seeing how there is a age gap between you two. But then again my mom would have let me, so maybe you'll be okay. Sit down with her and lay everything out on the table. She'll see your mature enough to handle the situation and mature enough to confront her about the situation and maybe, you never know things will turn your way!!!!
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To be honest there's not really going to be anything you or your boyfriend can if your moms answer is a straight no - the kind that won't change no matter what. The thing with trust is that it's very easy to lose but one you have it can take a very long time to earn it back and even then - all you do is earn the trust back, not erase what previously happen. This might be exactly what's holding your mom back from letting him come along as well. I think the best way to go about it is to talk to your mom about this. It's really going to be the only way so you can find out why she doesn't want him to go (it may not even have anything to do with what happen between you both) and you'll be able to try and find a solution from there. It might be that your mom is the one you need to tell about how you made a mistake but you learned from it and you're not going to be making that mistake again, as well as how honest you've been with your mom about everything since then.
If your mom is afraid of what might go on between you both then I find it a rather negative thing to focus on given the circumstances. You'll be going away WITH your family as well as your boyfriend so I don't see why there should be any concerns about you both getting up to no good over there when you could very well do the exact same thing where you are now and just lie about it. Not saying you are lying but I hope you see what I mean. :] Hope you manage to talk it out and get it sorted out though.
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tell your mom, exactly what you said to me! ask her what you can do to make this happen! you really sound like you have a bond with your mom, so hopefully this won't be TOO hard! i'm not great on this subject because i tell my mom everything, and it also sounds like you do too! if you just try to open up with her, and not think about what she might say after words, then it might be just fine! good luck =D! -morgan.
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