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So I have these 2 friends. But sometimes, when we hang out I feel kind of like a third wheel. For instance tomorrow, we were gonna go out for ice cream with these guys. Anyways, they were both together hanging out tonight and we were talking on IM. Well one of them said to me..."can you drive tomorrow?" and so I checked with my mom. Well, later today they asked if I could drive, but my mom had told someone I could babysit. Then all they said was, well are you sure? because your our ride." I just kinda felt like crap. What should I do about this? And I am NOT handling this by TELLING THEM HOW I FEEL. So PLEASE dont give me that answer. I am not doing that. %% Thanks &&
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Youre right that is rude, what? why wouldnt they be (if they really thought of you as their true friend) oh that sucks we wanted you to come, obviously your presence doesnt mean too much to them because all they seem to be disappointed about is the fact that they won't be able to get around. Dont tell them how you feel but stop being so available to them, or if you have plans with them say yeah you'll go, and then if they assume you're going to have ur ride just say nope sorry, someone else is going to have to drive us. Then pay attention to how they react, if they are kind of pissed off then obviously theyre only using you for a ride In Which case, who needs them? Theyre the one who needs you. Find other people that value you for you and not what you have, believe me, there are lots of other people that have better personalities than they do, and who will cherish your friendship for your presence and personality, not the fact that you can give them things they dont already have, NOW ON THE OTHER HAND, if you say you don't have a ride and then theyre like OH thats okay it doesnt matter lets just find another way to get there (or something along that line) then they really dont care about the ride and you shouldnt feel so bad. BUT, thats ONLY if thats what the case so pay attention to how they respond when you no longer become the person to get them around. If u see theyre only using you then who needs those b!tches anyway, theres lots of other people who will wanna chill with you just to CHILL WITH YOU. So lose them in that case. GOOD LUCK:) AND i hope this helped you.
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