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Am I too shallow??
Be honest. Okay, so when I meet a guy that i've been talking to for a while, i like him, but then when i see what he looks like i start seeing things that starts making me not like him, and more and more driven away. I'm not to hip on this, but I think that it could really help me if someone gave me some really good advice. Becuase i have a date with him soon, and i'm afraid how thats gonna turn out if i already picked the stuff i don't like about him out.
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Yah, I think physical attraction is important to a degree, but for some messed up reason, the people of this world think it is among the most important things in a relationship.
Think of it this way- You marry some hot guy, but through the physical laws of time and aging, he isn't so hot in 10 years. Would that make a difference to you? Could you love a guy unconditionally? If his looks would make a difference, then I would say, yes that's shallow.
I think that emotional attraction is far more rewarding in this life than physical attraction.
I just don't get it. If he's a good guy, why nit-pick his looks to make him out to be a bad one?
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i agree that looks are important, but when looks are blinding you from seeing what's inside, then you have a very big problem.
you may be thinking about what other people may think, but that isn't best for you.
try to wipe ythe slate clean of all the things you don't like about him..
think about all the things you do like about him.
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People may tell you looks are not important.
I believe differently.
Looks are important. No, you should no treat someone badly because of the way they look, or treat someone better because of the way they look. But looks are important in romance.
Physical attraction helps along with emotional attachments and love.
Take you're friends. You love your friends for their personalities, not their looks. You don't love them the same way you do with your partner. You wouldn't have sex with your friends.
The thing that initially makes you romantically attracted to someone is physical appearance. I believe that physical attraction is one of the factors that separates romantic love from friendly and family love.
Relationships are different than families and friendships and one big difference is the physical stuff. You don't kiss your mother like you do your boyfriend or girlfriend.
You shouldn't love people any less because you find that you aren't physically attracted to them. If you find that you don't love them romantically, then you'll probably find that you still love them just as much as a friend.
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