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Why am I paranoid?
Okay im 16/f to start off =]
My problem is that I am so insecure.
Like I know that my bf wont cheat on me, well I don't know like 100% because well... here is my reason.
Like this person i know told me a story about this really really handsome and well mannered Lawyer and he turned out to be a serial killer
Like its completely unthinkable but it happened ya know?
So that's the problem. I hear all these weird stories, especially see on tv about how her husband stabbed her like over 20 times when they were married happily and had 3 kids.
also all those stories and shows on how guys cheats on their girlfriends.
I know those are some psychos and weirdos out there doing that, but I can't help but to wonder about those things.
I mean don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, Okay we been only going out for couple months but we were best friends before going out and known eachother for over a year so yeah =]
And he's really a nice guy, heck he was voted as the most friendliest person and has really good moral values such as no drinking and drugs and no sex till marriage.
But I cant help but to be paranoid about all those things.
Like i would get really paranoid if he even talks about another girl. I mean he doesnt talk about a girl like oh she's really pretty (unless he's joking...) but like he told me he had to work with 2 other girls one day and etc... and i got paranoid although i didnt say anything.
Or when he doesnt call or doesnt pick up my phone. Which is really not usual, and he always has a valid reason why he didnt pick up nor called. So i suspect im being paranoid again, but then later i think, what if he's just a really good liar?
So little stupid things bothers me like that.
What is wrong with me? I really dont understand why im so insecure and stuff like that! it makes me mad because he doesnt deserve all that non-trust thoughts going on in my head from me.
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Okay, the first thing is you need to do is stop watching trash tv. Yes, there are psychos out there, but not everyone is that way. The media tends to concentrate on those kinds of stories because trash sells. Next thing you need to realize is your boy is going run from you eventually becuase you are pushing him away and constantly over-analyzing and driving him away. FYI - guys do NOT think like girls. They are NOT constantly analyzing every move they make for an alterior motive. So either trust the guy until you have a VALID reason not to (and no, I don't mean because you watch a new episode of America's Most Wanted) or let him go so he can be with someone sane.
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Hey nothing is wrong with you in a bad way..but you just need a self confidence boost. You should be confident in yourself and have the attitude like "yep, my guy is with me because he really likes me..and he wouldnt do anything to hurt me." <and thats true!> Hes with you in a committed relationship..if he wanted to mess around he would have told you he didnt want a relationship, etc. There would definately be signs if he was cheating. You would notice hes unhappy with you, not wanting to hang out,making excuses why he cant hang out, cutting phone convos unusually short, you would be hearing busy tones while trying to clal or something, he wouldnt have stuff about you in his info or myspace at all so he can appear single..and other stuff like that.
Maybe a good idea to do is to make a list of all the things you lvoe about him..and at the end tell him to make a list for you..that could be cute! Or, fill out one of those myspace surveys about your bf or your number 1 friend or whatever. Before you give him your answers written down on paper, have him write his too! And this way, whenever you feel those silly thoughts come on, look at the nice things he wrote about you! I think that can help..because theres nothing better than a little reassurance to help boost your confidence! :)
feel better..and remember..hes with you because he knows your worth it and he really cares about you a lot!
-melissa-
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