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can i stop the cutting and burning
i cut. i'll plain out say it. i've been off and on it for about 2 years. I also burn myself when i cant take it anymore. my mom thinks that i dont cut anymore.the only reason i did it before was because of my step dad. he used to abuse me when i was younger and my mom did nothing to stop him because she thought Me and my sister were lying.i got a councilor that i cant see anymore and my parents dont bother to get me another one. my dad picks my sister over me all the time so im falling through the cracks and cutting more and deeper.what should i do?
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been there all you have to do is say i can get through this. i used to cut and its what i did you just have to stop before you hurt yourself.
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I am sorry that you have to go through this. This is NOT what a family is supposed to be like. I believe that you cut and burn because feeling pain is better than feeling "nothing". Which is what you are left with when your mother, the person you are supposed to be able to trust, doesn't believe you when you tell her that your stepdad was abusing you. She didn't want to hear it, because she didn't want to be alone. It was more important for her to have that abuser in the house rather than protect you. It is no wonder that you hurt yourself. This is probably just the tip of the iceburg, both of your parents sound like they are selfish people who don't deserve to have kids. Kids need to be raised by loving patient adults, who put the kids needs before their own. I don't know if your therapist told you that, but she/he should have. I am sorry that you cannot go to the therapist any more. Is there someone in school you can talk to?
I can only give you hope. Some day you are going to be a grown man, and what your parents do with their lives, or have done with their lives will not matter.It will be your turn to decide how you are going to live your life. What values will you have, what commitments will you make and keep. Are you going to do the same thing to your kids? YOu need to break this cycle. The best promise you can make to yourself is to not grow up to be like them. The best thing you can do for yourself is to GET AN EDUCATION so that you can leave there as soon as you turn 18. You'll need some money and a way to support yourself so you can leave. You can create a life for yourself no matter what your parents have done to hurt you. Many kids have done it. NO it is not easy, but it is possible.
And this I can guarantee you, once you become successful, your parents will want you in their lives, and then the power will be with you.
I am sorry,that the time is going to go slow, but IT WILL PASS. And you can be ready to start your own life, or you can spend the rest of your life looking for love and acceptance from people who are incapable of giving it. Don't let this be your legacy. You can do this.
Some day you'll hold your own baby son in your arms, and you'll cry (maybe inside) and wonder, how could anyone be so mean to such a helpless and trusting being? Promise your child that you will never do to them, what your parents have done to you. I will pray for you, and I hope you can find the strength to do this. You will be stronger for it. If by chance you live near a library, there is a new book out that you might like, (if anything I said above gives you hope) The name of the book is "Bad Childhood.....Good Life" And it is by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Her early books helped me tremendously. I couldn't afford therapy either, but I was smart enough, like you, to know that I needed it. I have been where you are. today I have two teenage boys, and we are very close and they are happy and emotionally healthy and cherished by me.
Michele
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Sweetie. That not fair to you at all. You know that there are plenty of free hotlines for you to call and talk to someone right? Because these feelings your having aren't normal. You shouldnt ever want to hurt youself. It's not fair to you, that your family is treating you this way you deserve better. You are better than this. Go to google and find some places you can call and talk to someone about whats going on in your life, see if that does help. If you ever need someone to talk to let me know I'll always be here to help.
I hope your realzie that you've got alot of potential and I know that, just by reading what your wrote. Dont let the way your parents treat you ruin your life, it's your life live it to the fullest and dont let anyone hold you back.
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