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big brother
hi , my brother is two years older than me and beats the shit out of me. Hes on the football team and does weights and takes steroids. My parents dont care/dont understand. They are also out for most of the day so its just me and him at home. Mostly im locked in my room. If i go outside i can expect to be beaten up or called a loser. He has done this to me all me life and does it infront of other people. He did it once infront of his friends grandparents which shows how little he cares about what other adults think about him. Anything i do is istantly a loser sport or activity. Like skateboarding he used to beat me up because of that. For all of those people who say do some press ups or sit-ups, i cant really compete with a guy whos two years older and on steroids. parents couldnt care and think hes "playing" with me. so far hes broken my nose, given me a black eye and stolen over $300 off me. I just dont think its fair i should put up with this shit. Any ideas suggestions? My parents say im making him do this to me. He comes into my room for no reason, beats the shit into me, leaves. Not like I done anything to him. If im reading the newspaper he either takes it for himself, or rips it up. If Im watching TV, he changes the channel and tells me to piss off. Thats if i manage to get downstairs. suicide, running away , murder etc arent really options.
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"Scientific research also shows that aggression and other psychiatric side effects may result from abuse of anabolic steroids.
Many users report feeling good about themselves while on anabolic steroids, but researchers report that extreme mood swings also can occur, including manic-like symptoms leading to violence.
Depression often is seen when the drugs are stopped and may contribute to dependence on anabolic steroids.
Researchers report also that users may suffer from paranoid jealousy, extreme irritability, delusions, and impaired judgment stemming from feelings of invincibility."
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If your brother is abusing steroids, that probably has a lot to do with his aggressive behavior towards you.
Are your parents aware of his steroid abuse? If they seem unwilling to listen, you need to find a way to MAKE them listen. His health is at risk, and they need to open their eyes to that fact.
*Along with the aggressive side effect, sterility is another, which may make him unable to ever have children of his own in the future.
Higher chances of trying other drugs. Permanent damage to the heart, liver, and kidneys. In males, steroid abuse can shrink the testicles, cause impotence, and produce irreversible breast enlargement (gynecomastia).
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The link following tells the effects of teens abusing steroids:
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Contact the people at the following link to get information on how to help your brother. They will likely be able to advise you better in your special situation than many of us can.
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I hope I was of some sort of help to you, and I wish you the best of luck. I also sure hope you find a way to help your brother, even though he doubtfully realizes he needs it.
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P.S. You can also post this question in AKSherma's inbox. He is a doctor, and may be able to help you out. The link to his column is below:
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Wow, that really, really stinks! I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Of course, all siblings have fights, and big brothers DO pound on little brothers once in a while... but this sounds like it goes far beyond what's normal.
Obviously your brother has some problems. Maybe it's the steroids that are making him so aggressive. Or perhaps he feels a lot of pressure to succeed at football, and takes his anger out on you. He might even be jealous of you because, in his eyes, you have an easier, more carefree life than he does. It could be anything. Of course, that's no excuse for acting like a jerk, but it can help to know that there IS some reason for his behavior.
Anyway, my advice is to just stay out of his way as much as you can. I know it's completely unfair that you have to do that, but it doesn't sound like there's a whole lot of other options. Eventually he will move out and you won't have to deal with it.
Hopefully, at some point in the future, he will realize what a jerk he's been and apologize to you. Or at least make an attempt at having a closer relationship. That will probably happen when he realizes that he NEEDS you. After all, you are his BROTHER and some day you will be the only family he has. If and when that time comes, I hope you'll be able to forgive him and put these bad times behind you.
If it helps any... my mom's brother was a complete jerk to her the whole time they were growing up. Once they were adults, she didn't talk to him for 30 YEARS!! But recently, he called her and just started talking. They didn't bring up their old problems... they just started calling each other every so often, and finally got together for a long weekend. Now she's really glad that she has a relationship with him again. I hope that can happen to you and your brother... and I hope it takes less than 30 years.
Good luck! =]
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