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Change me :(
i need bigg help. i got in huge trouble awhile back & my mom moved out to my grandmas house in the country. and my mom gives me chances to prove her i can move back with her. but every time i get a chance i fuck it up. like last time i came home drunk. && she says i`m to wild. i have a boyfriend up there and i love him to death. i wanna move up there but i need to change before august. i dont see what i`m doing wrong. i`m the average teenager. yeah, i party, i drink, and i hang out with guys. but who doesn`t. i used to not be like this until i got in high school. how can i change ? someone please help
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Ok. Almost the exact same thing happened with me.
The only thing you can really do is clean up until then, to prove her wrong. Like, go to parties and stuff. But be the one with a coke or something instead of alcohol. If she can see you're really trying your hardest to become trustworthy then she'll more than likely let you move up there. And the whole hanging out with guys and stuff, thats typical teenage behavior. I do it, others do it, and I bet you any money she did it when she was your age. Theres no reason to change, you just need to become more mature. Well, I hope I could help. Almost the same thing happened to me and it worked out just fine. Just try your hardest and I hope it all goes good for ya.
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i got in major trouble too but with the cops
you just have to be like fuck i cant do that
if i do it i wont be able to move to my boyfrined
its super hard but its the only way
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The only thing that can change you is not a person- but it's God. Read the Bible, and attend church regularly, and after a short time if you allow God to change you, it will happen! It takes time to understand why, but PLEASE don't think "ew, religion. that's just so dorky." just trust me on this. God really is real! I'm a teenager too and I might be out partying and getting drunk too if it weren't for my relationship with the Lord! Christianity is more than just going to church and praying. It's the most amazing thing in the world, it truly is! I'm not just saying this! No one even has to know that you're a christian!
God has changed so many souls- and He will change yours too if you just give Him a chance!
so I hope I helped.
ps: God really is the only thing that can fulfill our souls. Believe me!
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Well there is a wild phase every teenager goes through.Obviously your in that stage,But you need to slow down on it.You shouldn't come home drunk and party every night.You need to hang out with friends , but don't do anything ridiculously ignorant.Don't do anything that would disappoint your mother.By doing that, your earning your trust and willing to change for her is there.It takes alot to earn everything back,But once you got it.. try not to let it go.You can easily lose it by doing completely and utterly stupid.You at least addressed the problem and aware of it as well.You should know better than to keep screwing it up.If you can stay out of trouble, you'll be okay.Hope I helped.. :]
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I'll tell you who doesn't hang out and drink and party....girls who want to gain back and keep their parent's trust. Your mom sees that you are headed for trouble and she doesn't want any part of it. That is not how you gain someone's trust back. You also said that you want to move back up there because there is a boy there that you just love to death. It's obvious to me that it is not your mom that you care about and want to see. And most likely it is obvious to her too. So many kids think that we adults or we parents are stupid. SO you want it both ways. You want your mom to just indulge you and give in to you, just because that is what you want....and you shouldn't have to do anything special to get your way. YOu don't have to behave, you don't have to show respect and you don't even have to be trust worthy. Well real life doesn't work that way and your mom is doing the right thing by trying to teach you that at a young age. It is so much easier to learn our lessons when we are younger. No one BUT your mom is going to give you a break in the real world. The adult world we're you'll be fore you know it. And I have been here in this adult world for a long time, and I have yet to find someone who will pay me to drink and party and hang out. I have yet to find an employer who employs people who think drinking and partying and hanging out are more important than showing up on time and doing a good job. Maybe your mom wants you to make something of yourself. Maybe she wants you to have a better life than she did. Maybe she wants you to take advantage of that free education that the government is trying to give you, and even go to college and become a professional, and gee, make a lot of money and support yourself. Or you can just stay where you are.
Michele
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