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Starting a relationship
I'am a 30 yr old male and she is 27 yrs old. I have been dating a girl who is bipolar and everything seems to be going great. I'am nervious about her condition. But I really want to know if this relationship will work and how I should handle the relationship. Thanks.
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If everything seems to be going great then it probably is. All you can really do is go with it, I mean.. what kind of lowlife dumps a chick and a perfectly good relationship because of her condition?
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Even bipolar people can have relationships. Honestly all girls are bipolar haha. We all have dramatic mood swings. If you say things have been going great then you basically just answered your own question. You don't "handle" it any different than anyother relationship. If you really want this to work, then you have to work w/ her. In all great succesful relationships the couple have to work together w/ ALL of each others problems. Being bipolar just happens to be hers.
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Ask her.
If everything seems to be going well and she appears to be dealing with her condition properly and in a healthy way, ask her about the illness.
She knows herself best. She probably knows her own difficulties best. Tell her about your concerns and your worries. She might be a little nervous about talking to you, but it will also show her how serious you are about being with her.
You should handle this relationship like you would any other. Treat your partner with respect and expect the same in return. If it isn't working, talk it out. If you have a reason to worry about her mental health, speak up.
There is no reason a person with a mental illness can't be in a long term happy relationship. Certainly a person who acknowledges and treats their illness has a far better chance then those millions of people who refuse to admit there is anything wrong.
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This is a big responsibility. Being Bi-polar can be very debilitating to her life. But she told you about it, so she is not hiding it. And you need to know if she is on medication. And how she feels about being on medication. Is there any way you can find out more information about her from her family and friends? How did she handle relationships in the past? Why happened to the male in those relationships? This is not to be nosy, (although that is what they will think, so you must be very discreet) Use the information to make an informed decision. How does she act when she gets upset about something. It doesn't have to be with you, it can be about something trivial.
You also don't say how long you have been dating. So if it is early in the relationship, well heck, everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning. A person does not have to be Bi-polar to be all wrong for you. It is going to take some time to be sure. This much I know is true, the best relationships or marriages, are the ones where the couple spend a long time getting to know each other. Became friends. Love comes and goes, It is not strong every day. But respect and friendship can keep you together when things get rough.
And here is the final question should ask yourself does she or you want to have children some day, and can it be passed on. CAn a pregnancy make it worse. I think BI-polar conditions come in all different sizes. Some are managable, some are not. YOu can find lots and lots of information on the internet. Try googling this questoin: Living with Bi-Polar disorder.
Good luck to you.
Michele
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Being with the person you love means to tolerate anything that goes in the way. Show your girlfriend your love and support. Be with her and be the guide, a boyfriend has to be. It's great that you two have been going so well but if you two stumble upon troubles about her disorder, you should lead her into a conversation where you show your love and commitment to her. (Girls like men who are faithful and loving and act all cute-sy) There's nothing more like a boyfriend caring for his girlfriend. Talk to her and care for her no matter what and assure her that your love for her is TRUE & not fake :] be sure for that, also. Her disorder might occur but just be sure to let her know that someone in this world, cares and loves her truly. :) There's no medicine for love. <3 Take care & I hope my advice helps. If it didn't, I'm truly sorry. I tried, :P Haha. I wish you both the best!
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I can't really give you dating advice when it comes to adult relationships. I can tell you what bipolar I and II are.
But first of all, what kind of bipolar is she? bipolar I or II? If she is bipolar I, I think it's safe to say that it will influence your relationship, at least if you get serious with her. This is because bipolar I people can have episodes when they become insane. In some extreme cases, they even start hallucinating. But these cases are rare, I doubt she has experienced them.
If she's bipolar II, a lot of it will be determined by what kind of person she is. She will sometimes be down, or up, but if she's a tough person she should be able to overcome it.
If she is bipolar I, and although I doubt it, if she is a really, really reasonable and strong willed person, she may be able to control herself.
Other than that, bipolar is a pretty common disorder found in a lot of people. You could have friends, co workers, relatives, who are bipolar and you don't even know about it.
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