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wanted: for sex.
im 16/f. im a little bit underweight. my ex bf moved 3 years ago and we were in love. but weve been drifting. he would never ask me to do something i wouldnt want to do. but as im trying to find someone else, i find that guys are using me for sex. im a pastors daughter, and im not willing to drop my dignity at someones feet. if i lose it to anyone at this moment, it will be to my ex of 3 years. but that cant happen.
seems like my ex is the only guy who respected me. is it because i keep comparing what he and i had to the guys now? how can i find a REAL guy who wont use me for sex?
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I know it seems like everyone is just in it for sex besides your ex but there are good guys out there, i promise. you just have to keep looking & not give in. try finding someone at church or at a religious school instead of just a random person... it might help a little. <3
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Guys are idiots at that age and a lot of them are so immature that all they think they want is to get laid because their raging hormones arent thinking rationally. However, there are guys who will like you and want to be with you for who you are. There are more guys (like your ex) out there but you just have to be patient and keep you guard up against the dirty ones that want one thing. In the end, those guys end up lonely because no girl wants to be with a player or a horn dog, or they end up with stds from all the skanks that give it up to anyone. SO, unfortunately it seems like for every good guy theres 20 horndogs...which sucks. It also sucks that guys at your age are much more immature than girls are and their weiners lead their lives for them in that stage. But dont lose your hopes, because, a good guy and the right guy will come eventually (they always do) its just a matter of being patient and strong against the ones who want to use you. Most of all though, is the good guys like the girls who have respect for themselves and dont just give themselves away to anyone who asks. The ultimate way of being sexy is having dignity and class, and just like you have to be patient for the right guys to find you, meanwhile, the right guys have to be patient too because they keep getting hurt by sluts who cheat on them. You see, it works both ways and its a shame that more than often, a good guy is being wasted on a girl who doesnt appreciate him, or, a good girl is being wasted on a guy who is only using her for sex. So, dont do what you dont want to do and save it for someone you find who deserves it and wont take it in vein. SOmeone who is going to want you (for your personality) and then the extras are all the added benefits of being with you. SO, watch out for the guys that appear to be the one just to get in your pants, and In order to find the one who does REALLY WANT YOU FOR YOU...make sure you get to know him on a friendship basis first, that way you can feel out his intentions with you (you have the upper hand) and at the same time he comes to learn who you are as a person first, rather than a sex object. Dont lose hope though, youll find him and when you do you'll be happy that you waited for someone like him who truly cares for you and not just what you can do for him. Good luck!
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Your ex boyfriend sounds like a very nice guy, and I'm sure that there are other nice guys out there who WONT pressure you for sex. You just have to find them. If a guy is pressuring you like that, it means that they dont respect women as a whole, not just you. They're not the kind of guys that you would want to date any way. If a guy really cares about you, then he will wait until your ready. Keep searching for that right guy!
-Charleigh
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