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I need help with life in general
Okay, If you are over the age of 14 then you could really give me some advice. My life sucks! So lets start from the beginning. Shall we? Okay I'm 14/f and I wont be 15 until april 2nd. Well my life is horrible because I dont do anything or go anywhere plus I dont have friends or a boyfriend like everyone else seems to have. I was with this boy that broke my heart. We didnt go out or anything. But I almost lost my virginity wiht him because he played me and I'm young and stupid. He told me that we were meant to be then he ignores me and doesnt want to talk to me so I hate that I did anything will him and I can't get that off my mind and I'm ssooooooooooo depressed about everything! I just cant handle that he played me like a fiddle then left me there. I'm trying to deal with it. I see that everyone else is happy with somebody else! I really want to die. I'm sooo glad i didnt have sex with him because gosh that would be bad. I mean we didnt take our clothes off. So I guess i learned my lesson to make sure I really LOVE someone before I get in their bed and let them stick their hands down my pants. And whats even worse is that my mom is being a bitch about lettin me go anywhere because she knows what I did with that dude. So I lost my moms trust and guys still wont date me. That dude even called me a whore for doing all that I did wiht him sooo fast. So he lost respect for me and I honestly think I will kill myself. My life was bad and now I've made it worse!
Does anyone have advice as to what I can do?
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You may not believe it, but you actually sound like you already have this mostly figured out! You realize that the guy was a loser and that you made a mistake fooling around with him. You’re taking responsibility for losing your mom’s trust. You went online looking for a solution instead of wallowing in pity and resenting the world. Good for you!
The thing to do first is to let go of the negative emotions you’ve let build up inside you about all this. Once you do that, you can move on to doing something to help you feel better. Knowing the following may help: just about every girl goes through the exact same experience you did sometime before they graduate from high school. I did. Everyone I know did, and not just the girls! Girls can be losers, too, when it comes to misusing people. So no big deal. Stuff happens. I can guarantee that you will make many, many more mistakes in your life. It’s not how many mistakes we make that matters, or even the size of the mistakes. It’s how we recover from them –that’s what matters. And like I said, you’re already well on your way to resolving this. So give yourself some CREDIT, girl!
The important thing is you have the right perspective on it and you already know how to go forward. Sure it's embarrassing and you're going to feel ashamed for being taken advantage of but trust me you'll get over it in time. Instead of letting the negative feelings take over, focus on doing something positive that makes you feel good. I wrote poetry and songs, learned how to play the guitar, and spent a lot of time with my dog. I made all new friends as a result – one who is still my friend years later, all because we both liked guitars and poetry.
One final word…it would be a good idea to talk to your mom and try to regain her trust. Admit to her that you made a mistake because you didn’t know any better. Ask her for advice in dealing with these situations. She may surprise you. And she should be impressed that you’re trying to put yourself back on track. Good luck!
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ok look at it this way, in 15 years will any boy you meet now matter? Not really. So whats the point of guys now? To have fun. But you can have fun w/o any guys. Just make new friends and try to leave out interests of dating. If you dont make new friends so be it. They wont be in your like in 15 years either. What i'm saying is that you can find ways to entertain yourself. Learn something new. What have you always wanted to be able to do? Well learn how to do it. Oh, and it sounds like you need some serious bonding time with your mom.
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Please just know that you are not alone! I'm the exact same age as you, and my life is equally sucky! I have no friends and no bf! And I even almost lost my virginity to a guy too!(even though we didn't actually date)
I'm sure i'm just as depressed as you about everything in my life. I came very close to killing myself several times. I even turned to alcohol for comfort at one point. (which didn't help of course)
And just reading this question makes me feel a whole lot better, just knowing that someone else in the world is like me.
also- not everyone else has a bf, especially not 14-yr-olds. I knew a girl who didn't have one until she was 17. Here's an idea: go through your friends list on myspace or look in a yearbook or something and circle all the girls who actually HAVE a bf. (in your grade) Then you'll see that very few 14-yr-olds have a bf. That's something that always helps me feel better- only comparing myself to people my age.
I've seen counselors and therapists which none of them really helped me. But idk maybe they'd help you?
about how guys still won't date you, it's not that they won't date you, it's just that either
A. you're younger than they'd like, and usually guys assume "oh she's 14 so she must not be allowed to date"
B. you just plain haven't met the right person yet.
And don't kill yourself because someday you'll be glad you didn't! And, the older you get, the easier it is to find a bf!
someone out there is your soulmate.
I hope I helped and I think we should keep in touch since we're liek so similar lol.
if you have a myspace:
www.myspace.com/unendingnight
add me!
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I'm really sorry about what happened with that boy. It hurts really bad to find out that you've been used. You should never ever think about killing youself. If you're seriously thinking about it.. you need to get professional help. Tell someone you know and trust that can seak you help. What happened to you is all apart of life. You learned a huge lesson through this and that's only going to make you stronger. You're only 14, you've got a longg way to go and you're going to encounter a lot more boys.. you'll eventually find a good one.
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First, don't kill yourself. That's not a good thing. My life is shit too, but you need to forget that stupid guy. He's just trying to be cooler by being stupid. if anybody teases you or anybody tried to hurt you, just do what I do, shrug off their insults with a laugh or a "You're so dumb you think it's funny" comment. Try to get on your mom's good side. Act like an angel around her. Do extra chores or something. And you should wait a while until you choose to lose your virginity. Like, maybe when you move out of your house. if you don't have friends make some. That happened to me when I moved to the town I'm living in. Nobody liked me because I was different. All I did was be nice to people and eventually people thought hey, she's not bad. And now I have a lot of friends. You may be a year older than me, but hey, we could be friends if you want to. You can email me at piratechick@hotmail.com! :)I hope I helped!
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Don't think like that you will met someone eles who will love you fogert about him. He does't realy like you or he will not call you names. If you want to talk live message in my inbox. Don't think of killing yourself for a guy that crazy. their are a lot of boys who will go out with you and like you for who you are so don't worry about him please!
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