I don't know if my advice will be any good, but I can promise you practical, actionable suggestions. I believe that life is about making choices, mostly about how you will react to situations that confront you. Outcomes hinge on the amount of grace, common sense, and goodwill you bring to the table. Unless of course you're dealing with a total jerk, in which case I suggest you run, don't walk, to the nearest exit. Life is too short to suffer jerks willingly. Everything else is manageable if you keep your wits about you. Pretty much anyway. So ask away and see what happens.
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well im 16 and i really want a dog, a small one like a scotty dog or something like that. we've never had one, i live with my mom and my 13 year old sister. it would be alone during the day cause of like work and school but im assuming thats normal. it could sleep in my room, and i know it's a big responsibility. i walk anyways so i can take it with me, and i can feed it and i already know how to clean up after it. my moms just worried about it being alone. i want one so bad, what are some ways i could convince her? and does anyone have any advice for first time dog owners? (link)
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I'm sorry but I have to agree with the person who advised against getting a dog if it's going to be home alone a lot. Dogs are pack animals and do not do well if they spend a lot of time alone. While a lot of people do leave their dogs alone at home for 8+ hours a day, it's really not a choice responsible pet owners should make. Again, this is not a popular view but you did ask...
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Okay, If you are over the age of 14 then you could really give me some advice. My life sucks! So lets start from the beginning. Shall we? Okay I'm 14/f and I wont be 15 until april 2nd. Well my life is horrible because I dont do anything or go anywhere plus I dont have friends or a boyfriend like everyone else seems to have. I was with this boy that broke my heart. We didnt go out or anything. But I almost lost my virginity wiht him because he played me and I'm young and stupid. He told me that we were meant to be then he ignores me and doesnt want to talk to me so I hate that I did anything will him and I can't get that off my mind and I'm ssooooooooooo depressed about everything! I just cant handle that he played me like a fiddle then left me there. I'm trying to deal with it. I see that everyone else is happy with somebody else! I really want to die. I'm sooo glad i didnt have sex with him because gosh that would be bad. I mean we didnt take our clothes off. So I guess i learned my lesson to make sure I really LOVE someone before I get in their bed and let them stick their hands down my pants. And whats even worse is that my mom is being a bitch about lettin me go anywhere because she knows what I did with that dude. So I lost my moms trust and guys still wont date me. That dude even called me a whore for doing all that I did wiht him sooo fast. So he lost respect for me and I honestly think I will kill myself. My life was bad and now I've made it worse!
Does anyone have advice as to what I can do? (link)
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You may not believe it, but you actually sound like you already have this mostly figured out! You realize that the guy was a loser and that you made a mistake fooling around with him. You’re taking responsibility for losing your mom’s trust. You went online looking for a solution instead of wallowing in pity and resenting the world. Good for you!
The thing to do first is to let go of the negative emotions you’ve let build up inside you about all this. Once you do that, you can move on to doing something to help you feel better. Knowing the following may help: just about every girl goes through the exact same experience you did sometime before they graduate from high school. I did. Everyone I know did, and not just the girls! Girls can be losers, too, when it comes to misusing people. So no big deal. Stuff happens. I can guarantee that you will make many, many more mistakes in your life. It’s not how many mistakes we make that matters, or even the size of the mistakes. It’s how we recover from them –that’s what matters. And like I said, you’re already well on your way to resolving this. So give yourself some CREDIT, girl!
The important thing is you have the right perspective on it and you already know how to go forward. Sure it's embarrassing and you're going to feel ashamed for being taken advantage of but trust me you'll get over it in time. Instead of letting the negative feelings take over, focus on doing something positive that makes you feel good. I wrote poetry and songs, learned how to play the guitar, and spent a lot of time with my dog. I made all new friends as a result – one who is still my friend years later, all because we both liked guitars and poetry.
One final word…it would be a good idea to talk to your mom and try to regain her trust. Admit to her that you made a mistake because you didn’t know any better. Ask her for advice in dealing with these situations. She may surprise you. And she should be impressed that you’re trying to put yourself back on track. Good luck!
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ok well i am getting a big dog but i dont want it to be bad at humping things. so what dogs are really bad at humping things, and whats the worst dog at humping things. plzz help, im gettin one tomorrow.
thx in advance (link)
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All dogs hump if left unchecked. Dogs who hump are trying to dominate. Neutering helps. The best thing you can do is take your dog to obedience classes and to learn how to become his leader. If he trusts you to lead, he won't spend his time trying to dominate his environment. Whether he humps everything in sight is totally up to you, the owner.
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There are 33 days of school left, and I have to either sign up for my 8th grade year to go to the same school... or the one I've been trying to go to all along. Let's call my current school A, and the other school, B.
I've heard from my brother's best friend's dad to always stay with my parokial education because it will get me a more successful future and job. But... I'm at the point where I either choose the school that's healthier for my relationships, or my future. Now, since one of my best friends transfered to B last year and I miss him so much I really want to go there. Plus I HATE 2 of the teachers at my current school, A.
I have my two best friends at the school, A. And I'd really miss them. But lately, I've been feeling so neglected by them. So I'm leaning towards B. Whenever I leave them to go get ready for class while I'm getting my books, they'll start talking with or about me. When I come back, they'll both be laughing hysterically -and it seems like fake laughing sometimes- and they won't stop until I come back. Then they both fake stone faces and I ask what was funny and they're like, "Oh, nothing."
Like recently at gym, they were talking and I went up to them and was like
"What's bothering you?" to Lindsay because she was acting upset. And she's like, "Oh nothing. You would just lecture me... so... " I never lecture her and she's always asking me for advice. Dunno what her problem is. I missed the dance last Friday, and she started talking about it and she looked at her arm and then my other friend Kristen said, "Hey yeah, she didn't want you to see what happened to her arm because she thought you'd make fun of it." And I'm like, what the heck? I would never do that! And she knows I'm not that type of person. And then right before class she told me she hates rich people. And I'm rich. So I'm totally leaning towards B... but then again, let's not get too far into my social life with this please.
Anyways,
I've been friends with one of them for almost a year and the other for NINE YEARS. I can't throw that away and it'd be hard to go to a parokial highschool after 8th grade in a public school.
Which school should I GO TO!?
A or B?
I'm so confused.
And someone I love goes there.
He's one of my BEST FRIENDS BUT I DON'T KNOW if he feels the same way!
I know I shouldn't transfer because of that but I have to take some risks in life if I ever want to get together with him.
13/f
What should I do? (link)
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I agree totally with Sabine -- pick the school that will give you the best education. It does matter where you go to high school and college, believe me. You will make friends at the new school and you'll still have your old friends if you make the effort to stay in touch. So better education, good friend already there, more friends overall -- this is an easy decision.
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i need more dogs at my doggy daycare but i don't know if i should tell the whole world. What should i do? (link)
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You need to figure out 3 things: (1) why should someone let you watch their dog vs. someone else? The answer to that question is what you should put in your advertising. Will you compete based on price (lower than the competition)? Quality of care? Experience? Convenience? Added services (e.g. you'll wash & feed their dogs, pick up and drop off, entertain)? (2) How to reach people with dogs -- easy stuff. Network with local veterinarians and animal hospitals. Once they get to know you and trust you, they will recommend you and possibly let you post a flier in their office. Visit dog parks. There are usually lots of regulars there who will at some point or another be in the market for dog watching. If they like you, they'll recommend you. Get out every day and visit other places where people take their dogs (parks, beaches) -- and bring those doggies with you! Dog people love talking to other dog people. Bring business cards and hand them out to people you talk to, let them know you're available to watch their dog. Ask local pet stores if you can leave fliers on their counters. Post notices on craigslist. (3) How will you deal with success? Too often, people trying to grow their businesses aren't prepared for the influx of new business, which can ruin your reputation. Only ask for what you can handle right now and never overpromise and underdeliver. People are VERY serious about their pets and you'll only get one chance to fail. FYI: I pay $32/day for one dog to go to a canine day spa and camp in my area. It's a lot of $$ but it's worth it because the handlers are trained well, know how to handle dogs, the environment is fun (waterfalls, large play areas, toys, etc.), and my dog loves it. I'll pay anything for something that makes her that happy! There are lots of people out there like me. You just have to find them. HINT: They tend to know each other, so once you find one, it's not that hard to network and find a lot more. Good luck!
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