|
friends are mean then nice,then mean, etc.
13/female
at my school we have a time during lunch that when you finish, you can go outside. i hang out with a large group of my friends, but mostly with a mini-group of people. this group is called "jonathans posse". jonathan is mine and 3 other friends best friend. i love them dearly, but they act so bitchy to me. during lunch they'll be having a conversation while i sit there with them and if i say something, one will glare at me and tell me to mind my own business. these people are my best friends, remember. on the other hand, if one of us has a party, they'll act as nice and pleasant as like berries and cream. one friend actually semi-yelled at me that no one liked me and to go away, until jonathan stared at her and said "shes my friend." (awkward silence for like 30 sec.) i've become clingy to jon, but i still want to keep my friends for fear of losing everyone else with them. any one know how to earn my "friend's" respect?
THANKS
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
it sounds to me that you allready have earned there respect, and aparently you either do somthing wrong to make them feel this way [probably not though] or they are doing something wrong to make you feal this way. you shoudn't feel the need to get your "friends" respect if you didn't do anything wrong! if they are your true friends you shuold already have their respect! the nextr time you see "that group" act normal. act as if you never felt anything weird, ussually i wouldn't say this, but...IGNORE THE SITTUATION. they're trying to make you care about stupid stuff, like being rude to you! i know your going to do fine with this problem, just don't beat yourself up about it! you'll allways have those friends, thery won't go away just because of a silly little argument!! stick with what you belive in<3!
]
The only excuse for any of them telling you to mind your own business is if you interrupted their conversation or gave advice on something personal when you weren't asked to or part of the conversation.
If they just rudely snapped at you during a normal conversation and your turn to try and speak than we have a problem. The next time any of them treat you this way speak up and let your voice be heard.
Tell them "I'm sick of you treating me like shit. I Have every right to talk or voice my opinion when I want and how dare you tell me to shut up."
Tell them also "I'm tired of you acting all nice when its time to be invited to my party and snarly the next. Either you start respecting me or you leave me alone."
They're walking all over you and not respecting you because you are letting them away with this and not saying anything. You don't need to earn their respect at all as they aren't your real friends and in a few years you'll not even know them.
You need to find people who are better than this as friends but let these little snots know they cannot walk all over you when they feel like it.
As far as Jonathan goes be his friend, get close to him and forget about these girls as they're of no concern to you in the long run.
They have no influence on people or power to change who your real friends are and you cannot lose friends because of them. People who are your real friends and interested in you as friendship material will have made up their mind about you already or won't be influenced by a few catty brats.
Assert yourself and lay into them the next time this happens and confront them about their behavior. if you do this in front of other people it will make them think and make them embarassed about how they have been acting.
Maybe this will resolve your situation completely but at the very least it will show Jonathan and everyone else that you cannot push this girl around.
]
Hmm this one is hard... I try to put myself in your shoes...If I hung around people like that...well I wouldnt, I'd find others...Are these people you 'best friends' because "the name brand" Like are they populare? Now this jonathan guy seems to be great, and the fact that he stood up for you shows something...maybe he likes you...or maybe he is a really good friend...but I have been told by many people that A guy ussally likes a girl, if he stands up for them, or even hangs out...do you like him? But I think you should find other friends...I'm sorry if this is not what you want to here...but they do sound like bitchs...
AmberAdvice
]
More Questions: |