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head over heels..
Okay, this is kind of long, but I really need answers.
Ok. So I have a crush on one of my coworkers. We work at a movie theatre together, and we always have a blast when we have the same shifts. I'm 17/f, and he's 22/m. So yes, there is an age difference. We've hung out with mutual friends a few times, and I've known him for almost a year.
He and I always did that sort of cutsey flirty thing, but even though I liked him, I always just figured he was only goofing around, not to be hurtful, but he just didn't think of me as more than a friend. Then monday night rolled around.
We were both working until close together and of course we were being very flirty, kinda joking around and hugging a lot. Then, when we were closed, he took me onto the roof of the building where we just talked and goofed around. Then we started hugging and kind of swaying. He kept joking about making out in the closet, asking me what I was thinking, all that kind of stuff.
So now I think he may in fact like me. After the evening ended, I sent him a text message saying "heh. next time just kiss me." and he responded with "yeah that was some pretty hard flirting, wasn't it?"
I dunno whether or not to make a move, though! We haven't really hung out one-on-one yet, and I have, in the past, ruined a friendship by thinking it was more than that. Should I wait for him to do something more? Or should I do something?
Thanks in advance SO much!
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i would say just give him a little more time. it would almost be like playing hard to get. try asking him to stuff one on one and see how that goes, if it happens it happens. fate knows whats meant to be. just go with it =]
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i'm 16/f and the guy i'm with is 21, so we have the same age difference as you and this guy, and we work together too. i used to always think we would never pursue anything (although we were always flirting and hinting we liked eachother) because of our age difference. when a guy asks what your thinking, he usually wonders if he's on your mind and is hoping you'll admit you like him. to play it safe, wait for him to make a move on you. it is clear that he cares about you after the time you guys spent together, and now he knows you are okay with him kissing you so he will probably feel more comfortable doing so. as hard as it may be, give it time and i think something will definately come of it. age differences don't mean anything, it's about how old you are inside. hope i helped! and i hope all goes well, just have faith and dont rush it!
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Honestly, if you like this guy, go for it. Make a move. He's been flirting with you -- you've been flirting with him so what's the problem?
If you're scared of ruining the friendship, ask him if he likes you before you do anything else. It might be a little forward, but he's the only who can tell you how he feels.
Since you feel a connection, ask him to hang out sometime when you guys have off. Maybe get some coffee or go out for lunch. Get to know each other some more & see how things develop. If he makes a move, you know he's interested so you can start dating.
Let me know how things go. Good luck!
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go for it! whats the worst?! i did it just recently. and to be honest it wasn't a fair tale ending (or start) but in the same time it wasn't all bad -we stayed friend and months after he admitted he liked me but i had a bf...- . you have to weigh the situation tho. when someone likes you will most likely have a feeling and knw (just think hard) and if you fear its just "harmless" flirting wait a while until you get a more concrete sign.
guluck! :)))))
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