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I HAVE A JEALOUS PROBLEM!
i am honestly the most jealous girl in the world-
my boyfriends amazing so i dont even know why im like this at all but does anyone know ANYTHING! that could possibly help me to not feel this way..its ruining my life..
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I had problems with Jealousy in the past. It felt like an overwhelming fear that my partner was looking or wanted someone else. It is very hard to just stop being jealous. But, just keep telling yourself that he loves you and ask him if he will help you with these moments of jealousy by re-assuring you that you are the only girl for him. Im not a professional, but i have lived it. That helped me. And i had very low self-esteem at the time as well. Now i feel better about myself because i have realized that beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. And there is no one more attractive then you in the eyes of your true love.
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YOur last statement......"its ruining my life."
should be all the incentive you need. Jealousy is a learned behavior and you can unlearn it, but it takes time. It is a useless emotion. It has never done anyone any good. You will have to admonish yourself each time you have those feelings, until you have learned to stifle them. And once you see that your life is getting better, it will reinforce your beliefs that Jealousy is a waste of your time and energy.
There is no magic pill or potion that you can take. There will always be someone cuter, thinner, younger, smarter, richer, etc, etc etc. all your life, if you insist on making comparisons with yourself and other girls, you will always come up short. Since we can't help but compare ourselves to what the media tells us is beautiful. Don't make the comparisons. So if you are up to it, you can start any time you like. Each time you feel jealousy, tell your self that you have no reason to be, and stifle the feelings. Make sure you are the best you can be, and tell yourself that you are special and you are good enough. It will take time, but it does work.
Michele
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