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wastng my life away
im 17/f with no confidence at all to do anything..i wanna experience things..live..party it up..i mean im gonna be a senior. The thing is..i dont know how to boost my self confidence to go out and meet ppl..im not ugly..not fat..i just dont have good self esteem..i wanna LIVE..but where do i start?
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The worst thing eever is not having conffidence.Ok ,i think your fear is rejection among people,that they might not like you.Ok that is true,you will get rejected.EVERYONE DOES!!But youll never know untill you try."Take a risk and you might lose,take not a risk and you will have lost ANYWAY"The only way to notice your true inner confidence is to give it a try and go out,get to know people.You have nothing to lose at all,even if they dont like you,they dont really have to.Do you honestly like absolutley every person youve met?Well neither do they.Take a chane and you wont regret it at all.Go out,look pretty and have fun!
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If you don't have a job already, you should think about getting one. Think off all the places that kids your age hang out when they're not in school or at home. (movie theaters, restaurants, etc) Then go and apply to all those places. You will be forced to mingle and converse with your peers. Also you will probably be working with a few of them. Make friends with them and they will introduce you to their friends and etc.
Hope this helps.
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have a party, invite your friends and tell them to invite their friends. Or maybe talk to a friend you havent seen or talked to in a while. Make dates to go out with your friends and tell them to bring their friends too. When your with people smile and act like your enjoying their company =]
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Well, when you are in a situation where you feel inferior, try to forget yourself and what other people think of you. Think about it, some of the best times you've ever had, you weren't thinking, ooo me this and ooo me that, he/she thinks that exc...
You are not superior/inferior to anybody..
You need to control your emotions else they (and possibly some really twisted people) are going to control you.
Do this exercise:
Think of a time where you were really comfortable, then tap your pinky and thumb together 3 times.
Do this over a couple of weeks/months until, by doing the tapping, you can get yourself into that emotional state.
It could be handy when you feel vulnerable.
then later, think of other states you would like to recall on demand and practice it with different motions, like scratching you ear or whatever.
Good luck
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this is what happened to me, i was really shy last year, then i met some really outgoing friends who really taught me how to live life and now im loving life more then ever!!, maybe go out and meet new people, those new people wont know that your shy, so show them the person you want to be, but be yourself of couse.
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