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I'm going out with a guy right now. he's a good guy and would never do anything to hurt me, at least not on purpose. we get in wrestling matches sometimes. most times i start it, and we're just tickling each other or something. it usually ends with me pinned but he gets off when i tell him enough. the only issue i have is that usually when i get home i see that i have bruises on my arms. i've gotten quite a few. i've shown him and he's apoligized, yet it keeps happening. i'm just not sure if that's abuse. my moms seen them and my friends and they're all suspicious of him. i tell them it's just accidents, but i can see they don't believe me. i'm wondering if i'm rationalzing it too much or if it is nothing like i keep telling people
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Ok THEY r overreacting.He says sorry and gets off when you tell him to.I'd say you're and easily bruised person.My mom is that way.I just poke with a pencil or something and the next day there's a HUGE bruis there, as if I was punching her there over and over!Really I am Serious!!!!It's wired.Hope I helped!
~athena
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its not abuse k i think people are making too big of a deal out of this i mean he apoligized so that proves he doesn't mean to and he gets off when you tell him to so its not in any way abuse.
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i dont really think its abuse
especially if your starting the matches
maybe you should just stop wrestling each other
or tell him to kind of be gentler
but you might just bruise easily
because it seems like he doesnt mean it or anything
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Hi.
I know a lot of people who bruise very easily -- like extremely easily. As I'm sure you know everyone is very different and just so, people bruise different. I hardly ever bruise unless it's something very strong (like being shot by a paintball gun which was the last time I had any bruises about two years ago).
Abuse is a very loose term and it doesn't really define what 'abuse' really is. In a way it might more accurately be referred to as assult or maybe eveb ABH (actual bodily harm) under British law but bare in mind here that it was through an innocent act (you were both playing) and accidents do happen so it may be nothing more than just an accident.
The best way to look at it is this way - do you think he was abusing or 'beating' you? If you say yes then there might be a problem but again, it was you who initiated the events that led to it. It might be a good idea to point this out to your friends as well as point out that you just bruise easily. You seem to know what the truth is but you are being misled (for lack of a better word - sorry) by everyone elses suspicions.
As I said, it could all just be down to you bruising easily and nothing more. :]
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Well if he's really aggressive when you're wrestling and doesn't listen to you when you say "stop" it is abuse. Me and my boyfriend wrestled around once, he was pinching me and stuff, there were over 20 bruises, that wasn't abuse because we were doing it to each other and laughing. Who knows, you may just bruise like a peach like i do. You should tell your boyfriend to lay off the wrestling for a while. But if he's really hurting you on purpose you need to get help.
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