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My boyfriend idea that i've been against...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. We have done everything sexual except anal sex. He has always wanted to try it but from my friends experiences I'd rather not. Recently I have been thinking about it and i kind of wanted to try it but I don't know how bad it will hurt. Can anyone share there experiences or thoughts to help me decide?
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it does hurt but if your 18 or older you can go to an adult shop and get anal numbing gel it helps lub helps period so theres nothing to a lot of women like it after theyve gotten used to it so you never know it depends on your body and your mind frame of sex
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First of all, if you're uncomfortable with any form of sexual activity, you shouldn't be experimenting with it until you're 100% ready to give it a go. Not only could forcing yourself into this situation harm you psychologically, but it could harm your relationship with your boyfriend if you begin to view him as the one who talked you into doing something you weren't comfortable with and/or weren't ready for.
Second of all, if you are ready to give anal sex a try, I would highly suggest you experiment on your own first. This could give you a taste of what's to come without the pressure of having to go through with it just to please him. Many females agree that anal sex feels the best when you've been stimulated beforehand. The next time you're masturbating (with fingers, toys, etc.), begin to explore your anus. It's your body, you should know what you like and don't like with or without the help of a guy.
Third of all, there are various sexual precautions you need to take before you engage in any sexual activity regarding your anus. Most importantly, please make sure your boyfriend is wearing a condom. No matter how much you trust him, the statistics linking anal sex and STDs are far too overwhelming to put your health at risk. Also, know that not using enough lubrication can cause tearing, which isn't very pleasant. You can NEVER use too much lubrication. Finally, educate yourself about the practice of anal sex and make your experience an enjoyable, yet informed one.
You can find more information on safe sex and how to make anal sex a (more) pleasurable experience by doing some research on the internet or checking out some books at your local library (yes, those still exist!). Also, you can get a lot of great tips about sex (numerous forms) from magazines such as Cosmopolitan (and magazines of that nature), so make sure to keep your eye out. There's tons of information out there that you can use to your advantage, so be safe and have fun!
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I've never done it. But if I were you I wouldn't.
Why?
A. My friends have done it and each one of them says it's like taking the biggest poop ever. They say it hurts terribly and is very sore later.
B. I don't like the thought of my boyfriend's penis in my butthole. You take a crap out of your butt and that would be totally embarrasing if he got some poop on his penis. Not only is that disgusting but it's dangerous and can cause many infections.
C. It is more likely that you will get an STD from this type of sex.
D. If you don't have enough lubrication then it could burn bad and make you have a rash.
Hope I helped on making your decision.
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Ok Im not going to talk about the pain or any experiences i've had because i would NEVER do something that gross.
Im just putting this thought into your head...I mean do you really want your b/f put his thing in your butthole...seriously how gross does that sound...what comes out of there???CRAP!!! so this is a "thought to help you decide"...maybe he just wants something to spice up the relationship but seriously find something else...unless you think his thing should be in ur butt!
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If you are not comfortable with doing it don't do it and tell him why and that it won't change. Guys tend to like this form of sex because the spinchter muscle clamps down on their penis and it's really tight as opposed to a vagina or so I hear a lot.
It can hurt very badly and most people have painful experiences with it. It's high risk sexual behavior and you have a higher increase for STDS including AIDS. The biggest problem is that the anus was meant for one purpose only and not for sex.
The walls of your anus if they aren't paper thin are pretty damn close and so very easy to tear especially if he's vigorous during thrusting or penetration . You need condoms for sure and lots of artificial lubrication for this and a patient partner who knows that the words no, stop, it hurts etc. means to stop right then.
If it were me, I wouldn't do it at all. However, it's your choice to make here but if you feel grossed out by it or fearful or not wanting to do it don't. You owe him absolutely nothing. He's a big boy and can deal with being told no. It's also your body and your anus that can get hurt here and not his.
Here's an article that answers a lot of your questions and tells you about the things you are susceptible to. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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It feels very very weird. Most girls don't like it.I can hurt, if he is really large. And if he does it too long, it can hurt also. Let me say this. Gay guys, who like it that way, have a number of problems in that area. Anal fissures, tears inside the colon, infections, etc. etc.
Don't do it if you don't want to. It feels like you are making a bowel movement. REally, and don't think he won't get some sh*t on his penis because he will. Don't let him place it in your vagina after. He needs to clean up. Soap and hot water. Best of all, don't do it if you don't want to. STand your ground. If you are good about doing everything else, he should be happy. No one gets everything they want in one person.
Michele
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