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pregnant w/ his kid!
about 3 months ago i had sex with my best friend. we were at a party and we were both really drunk. We talked about it later and we decided taht it was really nothing. We are still good friends. we have been since we were 4. he's like a big brother. and really he was the first guy i ever had sex with. i can't believe this happened but i'm prego. it sucks. It's really weird too because he is my best friend and we don't have feelings like that for each other. Our parents are best friends and so we want to tell them together that i'm prego. How should we tell them? Gah this is so weird! got any pointers?
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wow the first person who gave u advice is a bitch.. haha just thougt i should put that in there. so ya well we all make mistakes or if you didnt mind this then it really wasnt a mistake i think thats werid too but ok at the same time you know. what u should tell your parents is like have dinner all together, and when your asking to pass what ever be like pass the carrots im pregnate! and that could be a funny story to tell in the future, or if that doesnt sound so great to you then say we really need to tell you something take a deep breath and just say it and if you guys are together in the room then it wont be to bad becuase the parents can yell at both of you or be happy and saportive! TELL ME HOW IT TURNS OUT!
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Well first of "prego" as your reference to pregnant gives me the idea that you are not to serious about the matter. Maybe i am wrong but that is just my thought. Have you ever heard of the saying "No glove, No love"? At this point you are too late into the pregnancy to get an abortion to where it is not cruel(in my opinion). Maybe next time it will make you think about getting drunk and having sex even if it is with someone you have known for a long time. It is not a good idea to have sex with someone you have no feels for, that just gives you a bad name.If you did not use a condom, that is just ignorant and you should get checked to make sure you do not have an STD. If you did use a condom well, you are just the unlucky 2 percent which should make you more cautious next time. Regardless, depending on your age, if you are under 18 they are going to be very angry and you need take caution on how you tell them. If you are over 18 it will probably go a lot easier but they still will think poorly of you guys, if they know you had no feelings for each other. Depending on what your idea of the child's future living conditions will be should definitely help you decide whether it is the right thing to keep it or put it up for adoption. Since you and the father have no relationship other than friends it is probably going to cause problems in the future. This pregnancy could lead to many problems such a loosing your friend because of differences you may have bring up a child. Overall I think you guys messed up big time but you cannot go back and you have to move from where it is. In my personal opinion if your under 18 than you should approach the announcing situation very carefully but if you are an adult you should be able to tell them in anyway that you feel comfortable. After all when your 18 you parents cannot really tell you what to do.
Good Luck!
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Wow, this is tough. At least your parents are best friends, and since you all get along and like each other as friends, maybe you should all get together. First of all, you should both say that it was not the intention of either of you for this to happen, but you are BOTH glad that it happened with each other because you and your friend, still care about and respect each other. And say that you both need your parents(s) (his and yours) to be supportive so that together, you can all come up with the best solution of what to do about the pregnancy.
And I really do believe that it is better this way, with your best friend I mean. ( because if you were in love with some jerk who dumpted you.....like especially if it was someone that you parents hated in the first place. Then it would be REALLY hard to tell them, and then tell the jerk's parents. )
Also, you should both insist to your collective parents, that yours are not to be mad at him, (your best friend) and his are not be be mad at you, because you are both equally to blame. This kind of takes the anger out of the situation. (( I hope) good luck to you both. I hope that your parents will be reasonable.
Michele
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