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summer+no friends=...
So it's summer, as of today. Now I realize that.. I'm going to be really bored the whole time. My group of "best friends" never call me anymore, because they're always out drinking. I confronted them about it once & they say that they've changed now & I haven't. At school I talked to a lot of people but no one called me after or on weekends. Now it's summer & I won't see anyone anymore. What do I do? I have no friends. I don't want to sit at home all summer. Plus my mom is always like, "where are your friends?" & I make up a lie because I can't tell her that they don't talk to me anymore, I feel like a loser.
I don't know what I'm going to do all summer. It seems like my old friends don't even feel bad that I have no friends.
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okay, so go you for not following the crowd and drinking like your 'best friends'.
go somewhere and make new friends.
that's what i've done.
if its not too late enroll in a camp type thing for maybe a week, or go to activities hosted by a local library or something like that.
if you're the only one going, it might be a bit scary.
but once you introduce yourself to one person its not anymore.
like, for example, i'm shy.
but i'm trying to fix that.
whenever i go to the beach or camp or something, i say, 'hi, i'm crista. :]' and then, 'i like your [blank]' or even, [say if they have band merchandise, or sports equipment, etc.] 'you play [blank]?' or 'you listen to [blank]?'
basically i just find something we have in common and start talking.
the only problem i've come upon is when they don't talk quite as much as i do, and there are awkward silences and stuff.
just ask them about themselves, or explain a little about yourself to them.
after i did that, they opened up quickly.
if you don't want to meet new people though, just call someone you do know and make a date to do something.
and don't make it something vague that won't happen, be aggressive and make the date definate.
hope i helped.
any other questions about this, ask me.
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wow. how about instead of waiting for the other friends you have at school to call you out just to chill out, you can ask them if they're free? do what you enjoy, do what they enjoy etc. sorry i cant be the greatest help ever, but aleest i tried :D and so, as i end this "brilliant answer"(according to advicenators) i leave you with this message, not massage, but message: i hope you have a good summer :)
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It is true that misery loves company, and your friends are drinking and partying too much because they don't want to face reality.....and since you are more sensible, and you remind them of when they were also against these things, they want you to join them, or be without them. I know it sounds corny but you are better off. You don't say how old you are, so I guess I can't recommend that you get a job. How does volunteer work sound. Is there a library close by, you could volunteer there. How about dog sitting or dog walking? How about volunteering at a child care center to play with the kids, What a lifesaver you would be, if you could help out that way.
Please don't think that it will remain this way for the rest of your life. You will meeting kids who feel the same way about implusive and negative behaior. Adolescense is not forever (Thank GOd, because it is horrible.) You will see in time, as your friends' behavior gets them in more trouble than they can handle. My son is in high school, he does not drink, he has already lost two friends to drinking while they were driving. They died too young in traffic accidents. That was enough to wake him up. Call someone up that you used to think was kind of nerdy. I'll bet they are feeling the same way. You could start up a whole new friendship.
Drinking and drugs and smoking does not make you cool, or smart or beautiful. Go to Google images, and search on "crack head" or drunks. Better yet, do you like to read, why not pick up a copy of that book written by a college age girl, called "SMASHED" by Koren Zailckas. It is her true life story. If that doesn't convice you..... Hey maybe you could get some of your old friends to read it....it just might save their lives.
Michele
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try making friends online. there are alot of people online that want to talk to other people. and i know this may sound weird but try hanging out with your old friends. try doing some of the stuff that they do.
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