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Is it time to let her go?
My best friend.. I don't know what happened. But I can't stand her. There's seriously no jealously or drama .. anything going on. But lately she has been bothering me. I don't know. The things she does irriates me sometimes. Like when she tries to make me feel guilty for not sharing/buying her something. She would never repay me back anyways. She would always ask me if I was emo [that bothers me so much] whenever I didn't smile for a second. Is it just a phase? I don't know. She keeps throwing so many questions at me and I can't face her. I don't know. I feel like I'm taking care of her sometimes. I'm not her mother... My other best friend has noticed the distance between us. I really don't like her clinging onto me sometimes. I dont know why I'm suddenly feeling like this.
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Sometimes people who have been friends as long as you have with her grow apart or start to dislike things about eachother. Usually, after we confront the person about things that bother or hurt us that they are doing things start to get better.
You have to give her the benefit of the doubt here. She may not have a clue that she's pissing you off all too frequently. What you need to do is sit her down and have a heart to heart. She's probably oblivious to the way she's treating people and yourself and that it bothers even you.
Ask yourself if this freindship which you've cultivated over all these years is worth it or salvagable. If not move on as nobody has the right to make you feel miserable. The other thing with her constant questions bother you is to not answer them or deflect them by going back to what you want to discuss.
She'll "get it" when she sees she's not going to get the answer she wants. As far as the money issue with you paying for her and her making you feel guilty if you don't is there ever a time where you've relied on her for the same?
If so, attacking her with this isn't a good idea. Instead take a gentle approach in pointing out this out and that she does it too often.
The biggest red flag here for me (and it should be for you too I mean let's face it) is that you're scared of her for some reason and are very fearful about being around her. A friend will never do that to you.
She's also clingy which leads me to believe that she has social problems and all around never knew how to deal with people. You need to confront her to show her you can stand up for yourself and let her have it.
You'll feel empowered and she'll learn some valuable life lessons. Do it person and walk away. She cannot hurt you at all unless you let her. Much like a bully she's got no power over you unless you allow her to.
You aren't suddenly feeling this way. It's been inside of you for quite a while and now it's coming out as you cannot deal with these feelings anymore without venting them and dealing with it.
You know this girl better than I do. If you want to walk away do so and don't worry or look back. Is this friendship doing anything for you? Don't let her scare or intimidate you as you can confront her and tell her the truth. It's hard but you can do it.
Tell her you like her but add it really bothers me that you do X, Y, Z and it better change. Then again my vote is to walk away completely as she's doing a number on you emotionally here. It's a write off just like a crashed car I think. I'm being honest having been in your shoes before.
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well she might be able to feel the distance so she is trying to ask all the questions to feel close to you again. but you need to let her know that she is bothering you before you stop being friends because that wouldnt be good. you dont have to be mean but you dont have to be super nice either just try and say it to where she understands where your coming from.
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