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Reality Check?
okay theres this girl in my class. ive known her since this year and shes okay i guess.. oh yeah im 13 and a girl too. im not really friends with her but we sit at the same lunch table so we talk occasionally. i used to think she was okay, until one day she just changed. well it kinda progressed to her changing.. i only see her at lunch and special periods. first in the year we had music and i liked her and we usually partnered together. next was art and we were at diff tables. she sat at a table with alot of the cool popular people.. maybe that affected her? like soon after that its like she was trying to make herself be something.. she just wasnt before. its like she is so fake i hate it. then soon she got a new haircut and she keeps flipping it all the time.. and the way she acts its like too overly nice and shes trying to be cool i think but i'd rather her just be the girl from before. and then she acts all nice and stuff.. like now in homec thats what she does, but at lunch like once i asked if i could borrow a little hand sanitizer and she was all like "no!" and like pretty meanly. it was just a little sanitizer and it was hanging from her bag.. yeah thats pretty sad i couldnt even borrow a little. and like its like shes trying to act like shes superior to other people and would just seem like.. UGHH i dont wanna be around her! but shes in my home ec group and if shes not in our group she will have nobody else so we have to have her!!! DOUBLE ughhhhh. HELP. PLEASE.
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I understand how you feel. You met a girl who seemed nice, and you thought a friendship was developing. Then she began hanging around with other people, and suddenly didn't want to be your friend. So you did lose something... you lost a friendship that you'd hoped to cultivate. I'm sorry that happened to you, because of course it made you feel sad and rejected by someone you liked. Obviously this girl is insecure and thinks that being "popular" is going to make her happy. Unfortunately, there's something she hasn't learned yet. "Popular" means being well liked by everyone... not just a few people in a certain crowd. She thinks that by being friends with someone who's not in the cool group will lower her popularity, but that's not true. Believe it or not, by the time you get to high school, most of the people in the "cool group" will not be so popular anymore. It will be the people who are friendly and nice to everyone, and who have the respect of everyone, who will be the most popular in the end. So, don't worry too much about her. Just realize that she has a lot to learn and hopefully she will eventually. In the meantime, keep making new friends!
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this is sort of easy for me.
like, i decided to just kinda ignore this girl 'cause she gave me lots of crap.
but she's in the small group i always hang out with so that makes it hard.
just ignore her.
if she says something to you, respond, but not in a way to make conversation.
don't look at her, laugh at/with her [if she tends to make people laugh], don't talk to her unless you have to.
but school's almost over, so this doesn't even have to go on for long.
hope i helped.
let me know how it turned out.
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This is simple. All of the popular girls & guys end up being the backstabbers in the end, do you really think they want to be friends with her? No. They don't; the reality is, everyone changes themselves to look cool to win other's approval... but they make an unforgettable mistake when they do that, and that's punishment enough. Just don't talk to her, don't hang around her. But you don't really know her so... why do you care so much? I really think you should just calm down about this whole situation. She's not losing you, and you're not losing her... she's losing herself. She will realize soon enough that those popular girls and guys will backstab her and lie and whatnot. And you not being involved will teach her that lesson. After they've taken their toll on her, just be merely an aquaintance to her. You don't have to be friends with her, just be civil. Don't worry, she'll learn her lesson. But what really strikes me as a bit odd is that you are so consumed in the fact that you're losing her friendship when as you've described it, you don't even know her. I don't mean to be rude, but you should stay out of her business. This happens to everyone in life, relax! Do you really think that she's going to know you 10 years from now? What's her favorite movie? What's her favorite band? What's her favorite color? What's her favorite show? What's her favorite food? If you answered NO to the majority of the questions - you don't know her very well. You're not losing anyone so you're okay. 'Kay? :D This isn't a life altering decision for either of you :]
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Shyamali
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um...what's the problem? I don't get the question if there is anyy? Well if u want to avoid her just keep out of her way. You don't have to be friends with her just because she's in your group. The school term's almost over and I'm sure you'll get reassigned to different groups soon.
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