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so i went to a concert yesterday (im 13) with my cousin and his friends (sophomores) and well my cousin kept ignoring me like he would take pics of him and his friends and leave me out and like walk with his friends and leave me behind and stuff. I mean i get that hes in high school and wants to hang out with his friends but completely excluding me is ridiculus! so now im in NONE of the concert pictures and the thing is, his friends are having a surprise party for him and they invited me but i dont know any of them and i know i will barely get to talk to my cousin so should i go or not because i see him so much its not even funny. and he ALWAYS makes fun of me calling me fat and ugly and at the concert in front of all of his friends he was like, "wow you're a mess! look at your face! Your hair is a mess!" i mean he puts me down and i get all sad about it but i always have this urge to be near him. so i think i want to take some time off of him is that a good idea? and should i go to the party or not?
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hell no way.If you do go you have no dignity meaning you let him walk all over you and treat you like trash and still you hang out with him.If he excluded you then dont bother showingup at the party cuz hes gonna do it again and make you look really bad,he makes fun of you and you still want to hang out with him?!?!you seem like a really sweet person but that aint gonna work.DONT go.
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I understand that your cousin is in high school and probably doesn't think it's "cool" to have his younger cousin tagging along. And maybe that's why he ignores you, and maybe that's why when he does pay attention to you it's only to put you down. While I understand that such behavior is very hurtful to you, try to understand that he probably doesn't mean to cause you so much pain. He's being inconsiderate and downright mean... And I don't think any reason he has could possibly justify such behavior... But he's a teenager. Unfortunately, adolescence causes you to do things you know are stupid.
Don't feel obligated to attend his surprise party. If you know that he's just going to ignore you and be mean to you, and that you're going to be miserable... Maybe your time would be better spent elsewhere. If I were you I would tell his friends, "Thanks for the invitation, but I can't make it." Maybe give him a call later to wish him a happy birthday. Please don't ever feel obligated to be around someone that causes you to feel bad about yourself, no matter who they are. Love your family, but don't let them wound your self-esteem.
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