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torn-what should I do?
Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for more than a year (I broke up with him once a couple months back for another guy but we got back together). I love him, but lately he has been criticizing things I do, even good things, making good grades, even my clothes and hair. He says he still loves and cares about me. Then there is this other guy. Him and I have been good friends for a while, but then a week ago we both just randomly started flirting with each other. Our parents are friends, and we both show animals, so we see each other a lot. After the flirting, we both realized we like each other. His girlfriend broke up w/ him for another guy a couple weeks ago, and he says I'm the only one he wants now. I like him, but I dont want to dump my longtime boyfriend if it turns out to be a mistake like it was last time. It feels so right to be with the other guy, but I dont want to break my boyfriends heart again...I'm so confused...help
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Trying to "trade up" to a better partner isn't worth the risk. You have a decent person that you're with, and if you stay with them, it won't cause a problem. If you try to be with the new person, the old person probably won't take you back if things go wrong. I made this mistake a couple of months ago, and I broke up with my girlfriend of nine months to be with someone who I was in love with for two years. Things didn't work out with the new girl, and my ex won't talk to me. It's just not worth it.
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Do what will make you happy. Don't let the fear of hurting someone else hold you back. It might be a mistake, but it also could be everything you want. Love is all about taking risks, and in this situation I think you should.
Good luck with whatever decision you decide to make.
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Dont be so concerned about breaking his heart..you have to do what is best for you. Think about if you and your longterm bf broke up..would you miss him? Would you regret your choice? If it doesnt work out with the new boy are you going to go crawling back to your ex..or do you think its better to be apart even if it doesnt work out? These are all factors to consider before making this big decision. Whatever you do..do whats best for youu.
-melissa-
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well you said yourself its not like it use to be and you dont want to break your boyfriend heart but if you really dont care for him like he suppossly cares for you your breaking his heart anyway and your right you have to think do you want to take the risk and go for the other guy you never no it could be the best thing you ever did or it could be a big mistake just think are you willing to loose your boyfriend and if the answers yes than go for it because you obviousy dont care for him as much as you use to 1yr is a long time but maybe its time to part you know you live and you learn do what ever you feel is right and it sounds to me its not with your boyfreind goodluck i hope i helped my columes open if you ever need more help
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