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i have a friend who is seriously in love with two different girls. this one girl (caitlin) he has been dating for almost 4 months and she is settled on him and wants to be with him forever. They have gone out before, but it didn't work out and 2 years later she came back to him saying how she never forgot about him and he felt the same way and now theyre together again. My friend felt the same way she did up until last week. He had dated this other girl ariana for about two months at the begining of this year. He worked for 4 straight months to get her to go out with him and when she finally did rumors started going around that he cheated on her when he really didnt and they ended up breaking up. Right now he is in love with both of them, ariana never left his mind and its been almost a year since he started liking her. He's been talking to ariana non stop for the past week and she likes him too. Does anyone know which girl he should chose? He feels obligated to stay with caitlin cuz hes already f***ed her over before and doesnt want to do it again. It's really confusing and im the only person he can talk to about this but i dont know wat to tell him. help plase! (link)
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I think that he should go with his instinct to stay with Caitlin. If the two of them stay together forever, that's great. If they break up, Ariana might still be there waiting for him. He needs to be honest with Ariana, though, and tell her that he has a girlfriend (if she doesn't already know).
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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for more than a year (I broke up with him once a couple months back for another guy but we got back together). I love him, but lately he has been criticizing things I do, even good things, making good grades, even my clothes and hair. He says he still loves and cares about me. Then there is this other guy. Him and I have been good friends for a while, but then a week ago we both just randomly started flirting with each other. Our parents are friends, and we both show animals, so we see each other a lot. After the flirting, we both realized we like each other. His girlfriend broke up w/ him for another guy a couple weeks ago, and he says I'm the only one he wants now. I like him, but I dont want to dump my longtime boyfriend if it turns out to be a mistake like it was last time. It feels so right to be with the other guy, but I dont want to break my boyfriends heart again...I'm so confused...help (link)
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Trying to "trade up" to a better partner isn't worth the risk. You have a decent person that you're with, and if you stay with them, it won't cause a problem. If you try to be with the new person, the old person probably won't take you back if things go wrong. I made this mistake a couple of months ago, and I broke up with my girlfriend of nine months to be with someone who I was in love with for two years. Things didn't work out with the new girl, and my ex won't talk to me. It's just not worth it.
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