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this is going to make me look real bad but...
a couple months ago i was at one of my best friend's place, right? and i used to go out with her cousin. and he lives with her. now i haven't gone out with him since dec. and i still kinda liked him alot . we ended up making out, and he fingered me. [[actually fingered then made out, i always do this stuff backwards, cause that was my first kiss]] and he asked me if i wanted to do anything and i said no, and he was respectful of that, but the next time i talked to him on AIM he called me stupid and a slut. and he took me off his top friends [[with Tom on his top friends, the stupid creator of myspace!]] and i'm over him, but did this make me a slut? and what should i think of this?
13[[almost 14, yay!]]/f
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Okay, Neuronatas, if the girl allowing a guy to finger her is a slut, what is the guy?! You're no more a slut than he is. Don't even take that. A slut is someone who has sex with a lot of guys. You mention only this one. He may accuse you of being 'easy' and he may have a point, except that it was one single time, right? But you're not a slut.
Neuronatas has a point in that almost fourteen is pretty young to be going anywhere beyond first kiss. Fingering is pretty advanced for your age, so it might be better in the future if you were to deny any request for fingering until you're sure the guy you're with isn't the kind who will decide, after he's gotten out of you all he can, that he could look like a tough guy by ruining your reputation.
So he's a loser and you don't have time to listen to his silly opinions anyway. Just avoid him. What a waste of your first kiss, huh?
Sabine
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I think myspace has corrupted childrens minds. Get over it! It's not a big deal at all.
And the fact that you did allow him to finger you, kind of does make you a slut, You obviously are not at the maturity level to be doing stuff like this, especialy if you're going to be asking questions like this.
Children your age should realize that you are just that, CHILDREN. Stop thinking that you're all grown up.
I'm not saying that there aren't mature 13 year olds, because i'm sure there are, but you obviously are not one of them.
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I would consider holding out before you get to doing stuff like that, but thats just me. You may have provoked him but unless you literally asked for it he was the one fingering you it's not like it was the other way around? Well I hope this helps!Try just kissing and getting to know a guy before you do things like that.
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