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Nothing Else Left To Do.
Okay, so basically my sister and I fight constantly, physically and verbally. It's been going on for almost two years. I'm tired of it, but espceially tired of crying about it all the time and my parents not doing anything about it, or punishing us by grounding us or something instead of actually trying to solve the problem. Over the past two weeks the fighting has gotten alot worse. So I've been trying to talk to my parents about it, and at first they seemed like they were going to do something about it finally. But I should have known that wouldn't last long. All they did was put us on punishment again, so I got really mad and started yelling at them both about it. That they never actually do anything and my sister still gets to do whatever she wants even though she's on punishment. I'm not trying to sound like the "good child" here, because I do contribute alot to the fights. But my sister always starts them. I just defend myself which pisses her off more and she starts the fight.
So anyway, to sum everything up my parents really aren't doing anything, even though I sat down for literally almost three hours crying my eyes out and talking to them about it last week. They still don't do anything. It's like when I try to talk to my mom about it, she just blames me or says that "she is doing something about it" by grounding us. But she's not fixing the problem, she's putting a band-aid over it.
I feel like there's nothing left to do. Please help me someone. I'm seriously hitting rock bottom here. I'm so tired of having this same fight with my sister and with my parents over and over.
Thank you so much.
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Okay, have you told your parents what you want them to do? Is it something practical? Maybe they don't have any ideas.
Can you speak to a school counselor or ask your parents for a few sessions of counseling either for the whole family or for you (if they think you're the cause of the fights or that you just need to learn how to deal with your anger, etc)?
Instead of talking to your parents about the fighting, have you tried talking to your sister about the fighting (not the subjects you're fighting about, but just the actual fighting)? Can the two of you come to some agreement which lets you both feel and think what you want without having to hurt each other?
Yes, avoiding your sister might be the best option. I don't know whether you have that option.
Sabine
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hun i am not sure if your older than she is or younger...... i have a younger sib and we fite like cats and dogs mostly coz she starts as well... the thing is unlike your frnds you dont choose your family and there is nothing i could tell you now that would solve the problem (because i am not there with you to see what kind of person, you, her, your parents are) however, i do know that if you think deep enough there just maybe a solution to all this (because you know how they are) with my sib its avoiding her at all costs (coz again my parents used to do the same exact thing your parents are doing) i use to try to talk to her... to shut up wen the fites began... to to to to.... (it was endless) then i just avoided her completely (after she blackmailed me and ratted me out to my parents) there is nothing like ignoring someone.... be nice just dnt be in her way she's somewher you move... she knocks your not there... she says hi you say hi... questions? yes no..... eventually she began to realize how dumb she acted so now she's beginning to come around... i still keep my distance just in case.....but things are healing over time :)
i dnt knw if this helps but i hope it duz... i knw family business is soooo hard!
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