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Lunch drama
At lunch I used to be friends with probably the most snottyest (sp?) people ever. They are insecure. I sat with them everyday. They critizied whatever I wore, or looked like or anything out of weakness. I got in a cat fight with them. So I asked one of my very good church friends who sat at that lunch who is EXTREMELY popular. And She's like sure you can sit with me. So I have been sitting with her for a while. But you see she is like really confident, and she gets whatever she wants, shes out of nowhere GORGEOUS. and shes like the boy magnet in our school. She teaches me to be confident when ever I see her. She always gets all the attention. And I just cant act myself around her and if I do then she just thinks of me as "oh my gosh you are so boring". Im not jealous of her. Its just I wish I could just have fun with her but shes the one is just too cool for me. We go shopping together etc. Hollister is where we go. So I have become more stylish. But you see a few days ago she sometimes ditches me at lunch so sometimes I HAVE to go sit with my old friends and they are so still rude to me. But I like my church friend a lot more. So what should I do? And I dont have any other friends on this lunch shift at school. Im dead serious. So what do you think?
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I think that you and your church friend should find more things in common than just shopping. Yeah, shopping is fun and all, I happen to know because I LOVE it, but when that's all you and her do together, it can get really boring and played out. Talk to her and find out what she likes instead of depending on how she acts. Who knows, you two may find something similar that you share like bowling, swimming, etc. and you could go and do that. Honestly, I don't think you should go back to your old friends. Make some more friends at lunch. Start talking to them and see what you have in common. You may think of it as being awkward, but it's WAY better than going back to a bunch of low-life, shallow, friends who are rude and nasty to you. Trust me...they aren't REAL friends.
So, get to know your church friend better and engage in fun activities with her. Shopping with her is good and I'm not saying that you should discontinue that, just make sure that's not all you do. And make new and better friends at lunch. That way you're seen as nice and friendly, which it will be, and you gain more confidence.
I hope I helped!
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what you need to do is make new freinds, freinds that like you for who you are, that dont judge you. And your old friends forget about them they aitn really your friends if they judge you in anyway.and as for your other church friend dont try so hard to be her, be who you are and dont worry about what others say about you. And yes there will be times when people dis you but hey you have to learn how to deal with it sometime or another.
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think about the thing that yew admire about this church friend.
is it really her style and the fact that she's popular?
this person probably stays the same around different kinds of people and she doesnt let people pressure her around.
what yew need to do is stay the same no matter what people tell you.
i also admire opinionated people. like when you really like something or someone that your friends are putting down, speak up.
and go around to different people and simply just say hi and introduce yourself so that you wont have to be stuck with the same people and when they're not there you wont have to be stuck all by urself
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Wherever you sit, someone is going to ditch you, so either way you're getting fucked over, & getting your feelings hurt.
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Find yourself some new friends. Your old friends think they're better than you, and they obviously know how to put you down so they don't hate themselves so much. So ditch them some more. As for your church friend, she ditches you & tries to change you into someone you not & obviously cannot accept the real you. So you need to ditch her as well.
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Find people who will accept you for you & who won't find your real self boring. That's all that matters. Find someone who accepts you because these girls obviously don't. If you still wanna be friends with your church friend, then talk to her about things & see if she changes at least a little. If not, then you know she's not into a change & you need to find someone else. Good luck!
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well, make other friends.
you've already ditched your old friends and such, and that's good.
just because you don't have any other friend on that lunch shift at school doesn't mean you can't make more.
sit with a totally new group or sit with that are in your class but you don't actually talk to.
its not hard, trust me.
hope i helped. :3
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