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one my good friends, "liz" has a boyfriend, "andy" of about a year and a half or more. she is completely in love with him, and they're cute together. she's a sophomore and he's a junior (and so am i and my boyfriend.) they went together to prom last week and everything, even though she goes to a different school. another couple that rode in our limo with liz & her boyfriend and my boyfriend & i was our friend and his date-- megan. now things get tricky.
megan and andy sort of have a "thing" for each other. (yeah, let's just say that was an awkward limo ride.) andy and my boyfriend play baseball together, and so i sit with liz. but for the past few weeks, megan has been coming to the games and rooting for andy. and since liz doesn't go to school with us all, we can all see andy and megan flirting and everything quite often. liz and andy even went to one of megan's track meets becuase andy "felt bad because she comes to all his baseball games." (which is, well, bullshit.).
my question is whether i should tell liz or not. my best friend and i tried to discreetly talk to her about it and asked her what she though, but she didnt' seem to be concerned-- i think she's too blinded by being in love with andy. (which in this case, is a bad thing.) if i tell her all this, i know it will break her heart, and i dont' really want to be the bearer of bad news. but then again, i dont' want to have her get her heart broken by him, and then come to realize everything later. advice, please!
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Well your in a tough spot and could be risking a friendship or a few to say the least. But follow your heart. Later on, Im sure Liz will thank you for telling her but at first she might be in denial and disagree to listen to you. Dont push her, just mention it and how you feel about her reactions. Get inside her head. Also, put yourself in her shoes. She could be blinded by her affection for him but either way this could break her heart. Think about it.
Good luck.
Hope I helped.
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confront megan. Get her answer from her. If she says something that makes you think they are seeing eachother behind her back... Some good ways to tell, watch her body language, she will get figity, also, if she gets really deffensive right off the bat, chances are there is something going on. If signes seem like yes, confront him, look for the same thing. And explain you are only doing this in your friends best interest. Your her good friend sometimes you are supposed to be the bad guy when it comes to the boyfriend. then tell your friend. I would keep a close eye on them. If she wont listen to you your best bet is to catch them red handed. I would do the same thing. Your a good friend.good luck.
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Flirting isn't cheating, and it's not your place to get involved.
People will often, almost always, have interests outside thier relationship. That doesn't make them cheaters or bad people. Just that they are human. You've hinted at Liz and she isn't worried. That's all you really need to do for her.
If you feel you really need to get into this you might be better to point out to Andy that his behavior with Megan is crossing the line. He might know it deep down, but just be uncomfortable addressing it until someone else tells him it really isn't okay.
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