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my controlling mom and my bf/bff?
female i just turned 13. my mom ruined everything. i had a carnival at school today. she was the chaperone and one other person for my grade. yesterday me and my bestfriend(a guy) had a great time at our track practice. my first time doing track in my life his second. im good at it i guess. he really cares for me. we do the hurdles and high jump and a relay together. im bad at hurdles i hit half of them and fell over two. he was there for me he laughed at me(in a nice fun way we're like that to eachother) i have fun with him alot. we also love eachother which we held it off for a longtime because i didnt wana lose my bestfriend. id rather have a bestfriend than a boyfriend. but we hug alot and we kiss. we just love eachother. he was going to ask me out today at school. my mom is very controling. she hates my friends and she wont let any come over ever were the punky goths. hes real prep. but i love him he loves me everyone knows. my mom doesnt let me wear the chains and every thing but i do when i leave home. she always says everything wrong about my friends. well my mom would keep him away and always watching she stops us dancing me and him or my other friends even me with my (girl)friends as friends. we did the music my mom was always watching. i just hate it. in her words 'stay away from all thoes fucked up punk no lifes' MY MOM SAYS THAT TO ME at the party usually anywhere. my mom doesnt even know the real me. i have to hide my music and clothes and everything. on my ipod i make my songs i like 'hidden' so you have to hold two buttons to see them. my mom ruined it all. she stops me from dancing as friends with him and my other friends. WHATS SO WRONG WITH ME! my BEST FRIEND canot even comeover ever. so i see him at school and parties or when i go to the mall. i yell at my mom she doesnt leave me alone.
how do i get her to leave me alone? is there anything wrong with hugging and kissing my bestfriend romanticly? how do i get my mom to stop and leave me alone? why is it so bad for my bestfriend to be a guy? how do i get my mom to leave me alone shes making my life worse ill wear even more black? why it so bad. and anything else i forgot. please im going crazy
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You got a lot of teen years with mom ahead. If you want to get along you will have to talk. You may not want to, but nothing gets solved without it. It doesn't mean you will agree on everything, it doesn't mean you won't get mad at each other.
I'll bet your mom doesn't like not getting along either. Just tell her you'd like to talk (instead of yell) about some things so you will get along better. She will probably be happy to do that.
Start with your wardrobe. Tell her WHY you like to wear black. Some parents believe the stereotypes and think it means you are up to all kinds of weird stuff. Assure her that isn't the case. Tell her your friends are normal kids, they just dress differently.
Your friends. Tell her all about them. Why you like them, what their parents do for a living etc.
Parents also fear the unknown. So tell her who and about those people. If she has questions, answer them.
Not a bad idea to have her ask you questions. What is it she wants to know. What is she afraid of.
Ask her questions. Why can't they come visit me?
Didn't she dress different from her parents when she was a kid? Just talk.
She probably still won't approve of her 13 year old dating or anything. Nothing wrong with that.
Start to early and it usually leads to disaster anyway. Ask her reasons why though. Always. Not in
one of those hand on hip attitude ways either. :)
Get to know your mom in a different, more grown up way. You may not agree, but if you understand the reasons and just talk to each other, you will earn some respect and maybe even a little more freedom.
If you'd like some tips on how to talk to your mom, follow this link to some sites that will help
you to talk to her. :)
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I agree. I think you should try to talk to your mum. If you dont wanna, you dont have to!
Besides you are who you are! There is not anything wrong with that!
Talk to her and let me know how it goes.
Good luck!
P.S.
My best friend is a guy too!
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Hey there! Well i would normally say sit down and talk to your mom and try to fix it. But i know if i were in your shoes i wouldn't even want to attempt. Plus it sounds like she wo't even listen. You could try to talk to her and let it all out! But if you don't want to you don't have to!
The only thing i could think of now is to avoid her as much as possible! Don't even react to what she says. Ignore her completely. You don't have to sit with her all the time or whatever. You're a punky goth, fine, so what? You are who you are. And she should like you for it. Just go on with your life as normal as possible and ignore her.
If you have to respond to something just go through it subtly and try to avoid any kind of conflict.
If you do that, she might lay off a little bit, she might not. But try to get used to avoiding conflict. If it really doesn't work then talk to her or maybe someone in the family who can help your relationship with your mom.
Honey there is nothing wrong with you, and there is nothing wrong with having a guy as your best friend. There is nothing wrong with liking a guy.
I don't know if any of that helped! Tell me how it goes later on. Take care, if you want to talk let me know. Update me bye <3
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hey what i would do is tell yuor mom how you feel and shit like that you are getting older you should make your own choices in life and tell you want to wear black tell her it dosnt mean anything bad i wear black everyday all you have to do is sit down and talk to her when you are reay noy when she is ready.
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