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I sent advicenators.com thousand questions about my love life and they all answer "talk to her"
So I did but not face to face.(because I couldn't do it) So I told her to chat with me online and so she did.
I told her how I felt about her more than a friend. (we been friends for almost 8 years) and she respond:
"I don’t know what gender I like. (Yet), male, female, I’m not looking 4 a relationship at the moment so I not looking at them like that."
I told her I was glad that she told me the truth and we went on chatting.
Questions are:
What did she mean?
Did you think she doesn’t want to go out with me not yet unlit she is ready?
Should I wait for her?
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I don't want to tell you to wait for her bc you could be waiting for months, maybe years. But, I don't exactly want to tell you to get into some serious relationship with another girl.
I'd suggest maybe, SEEING other people, but not seriously or anything, just casually.
It sounds to me like she meant maybe osmething along the lines of, she isn't ready to commit to a relationship, and that she doesn't know what sexuality she is, such as bi, lesbian, or straight. Alot of girls have that problem through their teenage years. Once she relizes whether she is bi, lesbian, or straight, the answer to your question will become clear to her, and she'll let you know.
I don't want to get your hopes up by saying if shes straight she will date you. Because I don't know her personally, or how she feels about you, exactly, so I can't say whether she'll date you or not if she is into boys.
But I wish you luck, and I hope I've helped.
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if you really cared about her that much you should wait for her until she is ready
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If you really care about her like you say and you have waited this long already than what is a couple more weeks going to hurt! Or how ever long it takes. A relationship is built on trust and careing and if she cared enough and trusted enough to tell you than there has to be some kinds of feelings for you. From what you have said her life is so confused that she is going through an emotional downward spiral and the last thing she needs is a boyfriend but when she puts together her puzzle you may be in the out come so hold tight and don't act any different towards her. let her know that you are always and will always be there for her nomatter what. Then she'll know that when things get messy and tough you wont give up and back out.
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She answered. She is still discovering her identity and doesn't know if it's guys or girls or bi.
But the important thing is she said she wasn't ready for a relationship right now, and that means you or anyone else boy or girl.
She does not want to go out with you-- so let it go.
No don't wait-- do your own thing- what happens in the future happens and will when it's good and ready-- maybe with her maybe with someone else. Let it happen naturally in it's own time.
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She meant one of two things: either she really is trying to find out what her sexuality is as at this time and isn't ready to start a relationship OR it could be an excuse to not go out with you.
Obviously, whether she wants to go out with you right now or not, she needs her space. If she really is trying to find out if she likes guys or girls, bugging her about going out with you isn't going to help her chances. Let her find out who she is before pressuring her into a relationship. All you can do is offer your support if she needs it. She'll be glad you did.
No, I don't think you should wait for her. Do you have to stop liking her? Of course not. But I just think it would be a good idea to move on to better things for right now. She's figuring things out for herself right now. There's no use in you sitting around and waiting for her. Go out. Meet new people. Have fun. Keep living your life. If it's meant to be, then it's gonna be.
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