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hate my mom.
I can't take it anymore. you might think i'm just a child saying i hate my mom, but i've seriously proven the fact true. I can't stand her. She's so strict and the biggest hypocrite ever! always compares me to kids with no life that are goody two shoes, and when i compare myself to someone she says "i dont care about other kids, stop comparing yourself because it doesn't mean shit to me". She hates all of my friends. and always thinks she has to be right even if it has nothing to do with her. she's like "Ooh your friends have bad grades I bet, they're probably taking drugs" or "you're not allowed to hang out with that group of friends, they're a bad influence." I fucking hate her. I have no freedom, less than i did in like 8th grade! If I open the door, everyone freaks out. I'm seriously not aloud to walk outside. I'm not even aloud to skateboard anywhere anymore, and i love skateboarding so much. She gets mad at me and yells when i try to teach her something always saying that i snap at her. I HATE WHEN SHE SAYS THAT. I'm gonna go fucking insane. This is why I always have to lie to her, and be sneaky. Although its bad now because she's caught on to it. She never forgives me for a mistake, and brings it up anytime i do something wrong. She throws a fit for the stupidest things. I've wanted to commit suicide because of her, and I'm scared I just wish she died or was out of my life for good. I wish she could fucking leave me alone!!! She thinks people who cut themselves are the biggest messed up freaks in the world and that kids with divorced parents MUST be druggies. Another reason for her to hate my friends. I mean, I had a not as extreme, but similar point of view of cutters, until I was one of them. I know what it's like, and the reason is because of her. I can't take her yelling, all those sleepless nights where i just fucking cried. okay well I don't even know what to say, because this isn't even a question and I'm starting to sound like a little emo fuck. which I most definitely am not.. just help me.
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im younger than you and i go through this everyday to. that sounds like my mom i hate her soo much. ive been a goody goody a no life a cutter a suicideal person a druggie. me and my mom yell and cuss so much to eachother all day. ive tried everything i could think of to change it. my friend stopped me from suicide by stopping the bleeding then holding me down from my gun and yelling at me but its tough love. my bff is a guy he said if i killed myself hed kill himself with his death wish to be buried by me not even his family. i cry myself to sleep every single night. ive been asking alot of questions on here about my mom too. your not alone. some answers are. wear all black~chains~lots of jewelry~heavy makeup. youd get your mom to shut up for a sec so you can get words in. you might get a therapist. i got both. ~or~ go goody goody wear all prep and act so fuckin proud of it. youd get your mom to shut up for a sec so you can get words in. you might get a therapist. i got both. go extreme. id help. my mom cant take a hint at all but she did. ~or~ two answers i got from others write a letter or tell her calmly neither worked at all for me i doubt they will but try everything. ~and~ for druggies, freaks,no life,sneakier,deep cutter, suicideal person tell her that if she doesnt leave you alone more youd end up like that ~hope i helped~ at least at all ~im still workin on my mom/life but its gettin better all this is comeing from a shy gothic punky girl in seventh grade ive been trough it all cry yourself to sleep every night it helps alot
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You ARE just a child saying you hate your mom.
Your mom is just looking out for you. I'm guessing you're in Grade 9? You're not supposed to have a lot of freedom, because you're still pretty young. I know it might seem like most people have a ton of freedom, but that isn't always the best thing.
You mention that you have less freedom than you used to... did you ever stop to think that it might be because when she set rules you started sneaking around and lying to her?
Try acting like a mature, trustworthy kid, and she'll probably let up.
And those no-life, goody-two-shoes kids? They can actually be pretty cool. And they often have a life, contrary to popular belief... I should know, I was one of them!
When she compares you to others, but then tells you not to compare yourself to other kids, it may be because you're comparing yourself to the lowest common denominator. You've got to aim higher, compare yourself to more successful people. That's how goals work!
Trust me on this... you don't wish your mom was dead. You're just a frustrated teen. You'll get over it with time.
I'm sorry this comes across as a lecture... I really don't mean it like that. I'm just trying to bring a more mature perspective with the benefit of hindsight.
BTW, I was just like you at one point... I wished my mom would die. I'm incredibly ashamed of that now, and that's why this hit close to home.
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You sound like I did when I was younger, my mother is very strict and loses her temper as well. But you have to remember, they are strict for A REASON. I know it's hard to understand, because it seems like they are hurting you more by keeping you locked inside- but it IS a harsh world out there. I think you just need to learn to respect your mother, so that you can get that same respect back. Cutting yourself is NOT the way to deal with this. I know I almost started that...but you're problems will go away soon, this wont last forever. In the long run, your mother is going to be more important than your friends, so please don't choose them over her. The way I got my mother to let me do more stuff was to stop crying about it, and show her I was responsible and that I could take care of myself. There is no easy way to do this, it takes time, but you have to earn her repect, which for strict mother's is hard to do. don't loose your temper, even if she might. Just remember, your mother does care for you, or she wouldn't be trying to protect you. There are MUCH worse parents out there. Just take it one day at a time, and please don't hurt yourself over this, this problem will not last forever even if it may seem like it may.
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