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how interesting can sex be to be satisfied?
Im a married woman who is in to her husband but don't really know how satisfied or into me he is or rather contented with me? I do love him and I know he loves me, but I dont know if he has eyes, feelings, or lust for someone eles.. we used to have lots of sex where he stayed hard but now we are married it is as if we make love once or twice a wk if he is in the mood and if so, he doesn't stay up for long... what can be the problem with sex for us in the bed room? can any one help in answering this question?
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To start off, I will paraphrase the sentiments of Milan Kundera, author of "The Unbearable Lightness of Being." Here I go:
Basically, we are social animals, and being that we are, there are an infinite number of people that we look at and say to ourselves: "I'd do her/him." However, we keep coming back to that ONE, the one we want to build a life and home with. Lust is just that. It's just lust.
So, if he's happy with you and your marriage is working, don't stress over what he's thinking.
Now, to the root of the problem: COMMUNICATE! If you feel like you would like to have sex more often than you currently are, let your husband know how you feel. It is unlikely that he doesn't find you attractive or desireable, but marriage DOES change things. We become so locked in our routines and our other duties in life that sex can often end up being brushed aside. Let him know that you've noticed it. It may not even have occured to him.
Also, I have this suggestion: GO GET 'EM, GIRL! Women are often shy about being the aggressor, but if you want some lovin', tackle it. Perhaps he feels like you are too tired to be bothered with him initiating it, so give him the green light. When watching TV on the couch, let your hands wander to his netherregion, give him a seductive come hither towards the bedroom kiss, or just plain meet him at the door one day and tackle him!
Bottom line is you have to communicate. He can't read your mind. Let him know what you want.
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I know how you feel (being there), im also married, at one piont in my relationship i thought i didnt please my husband enough,i didnt want him to look elsewhere to satisfy his urges i was very worried he cheat on me,men have stonger sexaual urges than women and seems like there never satisfied! This is what i did, i know at first it sounded crazy but it worked. I watched pornos with him,we expeeriment with toys,and one day i was watching a porno n thought to myself what it would be like to have a threesome n how would hefeel about. I talked to him and we agreed it would have to be a friend of mine that's clean and i can trust,that will be there only for sexaual satisfaction, to my suprised iwas also satisfied so much and he enjoyed it so much that he loved me more.ialso learned what its like to be have intimate pleasure with another woman. My husband being there made it more comfortable for me because i didnt feel he was cheating and i wasent cheating because we agreed on it.hope i was helpful enough sorry i was so detial!!
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Just talk to him, find out what he likes. After a while you will get into a routine it's inevitable. Experiment in the bedroom (or kitchen, living room etc). Doing the same stuff all the time gets boring. Just try some different positions, sexy underware etc.
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Hello,
I answered your question yesterday. Listen, I went through the same thing hun, and if you want to know how to handle this situation of him having wandering eyes and thoughts of hanky-panky with other women, I will be happy to tell you what my wife did......and believe me, it worked!!! She bought a book, and I wouldn't even tell you about it unless it worked. I don't share this with anyone. Please let me know, and you won't have trouble with him having hard-ons or him wanting your body and ONLY your body ever again....I promise.
gianni
Hi,
Let me tell you hun that this is no surprise to married couples. I have been married 7 years....you think once or twice a week is BAD??......try once or twice a year!!! And even at that it's really boring. I just masturbate all the time because it's easier. My situation is different. She just does not turn me on in any way. I couldn't get an erection with her if she held a gun to my head. Our relationship is good as far as staying together, investing money, and planning the future....but the sex?.......forget about it....it's over!! One thing I've learned is that a good relationship goes way beyond the bedroom. I don't know how old you two are, but I hope you won't be in this situation long. Does he masturbate? Is he getting any on the side? Might be worth looking into hun.
Take care.......gianni
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try some new positions. or wear a sexy / skanky outfit lmao idk just try new things to turn him and keep him on
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