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Pregnant Friends
My best friend is pregnant. This is really hard to believe for me because of the fact that we are 13 and that we promised eachother we wouldn't do it until we were at least 20. She says she was drunk but what the hell!? She's told me so many versions of the same story and i don't know which to believe! I don't even know how she found out. She is coming over Saturday and she is going to take the pregnancy test in my bathroom again just to make sure. I'm the ONLY one who knows. I want to be her friend but if its true I don't think I can stay friends with her. She is such a bad influence on me.
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I know everyone is saying that you "need to be there for her, and blah blah." But honestly, if it was me, I would not want anything to do with her, even if she was my friend. Sorry that I sound like a mean person, but here's my point: You should continue to support her as long as she doesn't pressure YOU to do anything. You should stick by her side, but if she starts saying, "Oh, you should have a baby too." or "Oh why don't you have sex too?" thats when you need to dump her as a friend. You don't have to help her with the pregnancy test, you don't have to help her with anything if you really don't want to. She's not your daughter- let her parents help her if she needs it, because they've actually had children and understand it more. (Obviously she would have to tell her parents first...) But like I said...
A Bad Decision but Good Friend= Yes, she got pregnant but shes not pressuring you to do anything that you don't want to. (sex, drugs, drinking.)
A Bad Influence: She tries to convince you to have a baby with her, to do everything for her, or to engage in other risky behaviors.
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Is she really a bad influence or are you just disappointed in her? It sounds like you've got your head on straight despite the fact that your friend is quite messed up. Being disappointed in her is okay, if she is pregnant, she's going to have to learn to deal with a lot of people being quite disappointed (and angry!) with her, and you might find that your friendship can survive disappointment.
I was in a very similar situation when I was seventeen, not nearly quite so young, and although my friendship with the new mom changed a great deal, it didn’t have to die just because she made a few choices I disagreed with.
But I wouldn’t worry about it too much until after you see the test. Sounds like your friend might just really love drama. If it turns out she isn’t pregnant, you still might want to talk to an adult about what she has told you, because if she is behaving that way at thirteen, she really needs an adult to step in, and if she is merely telling you stories then she REALLY needs an adult to step in.
Good Luck.
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If she is really your best friend, then why are you thinking to bail out on her because she has obviously made a big mistake?
Especially since she's going to need a real friend to lean on. I mean, good grief. She has a hard road ahead of her, being a pregnant 13 year old girl.
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you have to think of it from her side right now this is the toughest time on her and as soon as her other friends find out shes pregnant most of them might not be her friend so right now she needs a friend and all you can do is be there for her right now.....
*~hope i helped~*
SARAH
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