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Confused.
My bf wants to go all the way but i am not sure i am ready. I keep having fantasies of us together but i stop myself. It's getting really hard because he brings condums every time we see each other. My friends and their bf's are doing it...should I?
age: 15/f
my bf: 18
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do not, and i repeat, do NOT do anything you are not 100% ready for. he shouldn't keep pressuring this on you. i thought i was ready for my first time, and it ended up hurting me emotionally sooo much in the end when we broke up. it feels like the right decision at the time, but when all that fades away, you'll just be left with heartache, and memories you can't ever get rid of
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NO!!!! I'm not trying to be mean at all, I'm just telling you the truth. Your boyfriend is 18, and you are 15. He is considered an adult, and you are considered a minor. Having sex with a minor is considered rape (even if you want to do it too.) Your boyfriend could go to jail.
Another reason, most guys break up with you right after you have sex. They've gone all the way with you- there's nothing more to chase. I think its more fun to play hard to get and let the boys chase after you. Don't give in, don't do anything you don't want to.
And, don't do something "because your friends are doing it." Totally lame. Some girl walks up to me the other day and goes, "Hey, where can I buy punk clothes because my friend says I should go punk!" Okay. How lame does that sound to you? Can you imagine saying, "I'll do it with you, because my friends think that I should have sex with you." ???
Bottom line: If you let your friends and your boyfriend walk over you, EVERYONE in your life is going to start walking all over you. Please Please Please take my advice and don't do it. You should consider getting a new boyfriend and some new friends. TRUST ME- there ARE guys out there that think about more than just sex.
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No, you shouldn't. Here's why:
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He is pressuring you. By bringing condoms over each time he visits you he is pressuring you. Instead of leaving it open to discussion he is planning for it to 'just happen'. That means he wants to get laid, regardless if you are sure of your decision or not. The moment you say "well, maybe... yes" he'll be ready to go before you can change your mind. That isn't the right way to make a decision like this.
Remember this for the rest of your life dear: Do not sleep with guys who carry condoms in their wallets. They are not being prepared. They are being indiscriminate.
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You aren't sure. Fantasies are one thing. I have fantasies driving my car over 150 miles an hour. Doesn't mean I'm a good enough driver to do it, and certainly doesn't mean it's a good idea.
So to sum up: You aren't sure of your decision and your boyfriend is putting a lot of pressure on you. I'm sure he says he isn't! But his actions speak louder then his words. He wants sex, and sex isn’t something you should ‘give’ to your partner, it’s something you should be happy to share.
So tell him to back off, leave the condoms at home, and let you have a good clear think on it.
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hm. well if you are really questioning your self if you should do it or not, then you obviously arent ready. You are only 15.. and plus hes 18, and if you tell him that you dont wanna go all the way and he gets mad then he isnt good for you because he shouldnt pressure you into doing something you dont want to. & just cause all of your friends are doing it doesnt mean you should, haha i know it sounds lame but its the truth.
goood luck <3 xox
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If you don't feel like you are completely ready, DO NOT do it. Only go all the way with your boyfriend when you feel ready for it. Even though your boyfriend is pressuring you, in the long run you'll regret it if you lose your virginity just because he was pressuring you to.
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legaly you can't because its considered molestation becuase he is over 18+, and you are also illegal to be having sex.. but dipite the age.. i guess you would go with the way your heart wants to go or what you think would be best.. dont follow what your friends are doing it will end up in something you dont want
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