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Sooo..me && my boyfriend are engaged, and he`s grounded until may 7th..he turns 18 10 days later. i`m allowed over his house if his mom is home, but he works every friday saturday and sunday from 4-8. and my mom never wants to take me over there, she never will!! and he only lives 13 freaking minutes away!! neither of us drive, and even if we did get our temps, we`d have to have a parent in the car anyways, right??
like, he sometimes takes the bus, his mother rarely drives him anywhere, either. i`m scared that when he moves out, my mom won`t let me over his CriB, because it`s not supervised? i turn 18 in december..and we plan on getting married june 30th, 2008 ((my mom`s bday, just to piss her off))
my mom was talking about how my friend kayla is getting married this summer after she graduates, and she said it`s stupid. ((she doesn`t know that me and adam are engaged))
yea, he`s not allowed to go anywhere until may 7th, and even then. it will be hard for us to see each other..my mom is taking me today, but she`s really pissed about it, and she said never again..
help please??
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Awww!! =( You must really love this guy so much!! I don't know.. i may be assuming here but it seems to me like you want to run away from everyone and everything with him! My advice to you is end it all in a good way... like try on working out your relationship with your mom...and get along with her for a while... Your mom might think that it's stupid for your friend to get married because she might think it's a bit early...because marriage is a huge thing...like a big committment and everything...but anyways...see how it goes with your mom and hang out with her a little bit while you wait till May 7th...and if you DON'T want to hang out with your mom...then just avoid any conflict with her....And before May 7th talk to her about your boyfriend and tell her how much you miss him....talk to her about your boyfriend and tell her all the good things about him....so she'd be able to think that he's not bad and then might be able to take to his house again...you might want to tell her about your engagement but don't tell her all of those at once..just a little bit at first then talk more about him and stuff...because she's going to be really surprised when she finds out! and she's going to find out sooner or later... plus it's better when you talk to her calmly about it and open up to her...like it's better when she hears it from you!! Anyways onec thing i tell you to avoid is..don't drop it like a bomb on everyone...and don't just run away with him when you get a car.. cuz then it might get really screwed up..Anyways i dunno if i helped but if you need anything else ask away...tc tell us how it goes! Hope it works well! :D
Hey just replying to ur comment...it's your choice...but i'd suggest telling her about him and how he's a great guy and then tell her that you really like him and you've been together for a while! Slip it through to her gently...and make sure she's in a good mood at first and like both of you have been getting along and then u know as if ur opening up to her...just tell her..she should see it from your prespective and support you since you really like him =)
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Are you sure you're even ready to get married? If you still get grounded, and do little immatures things like have the wedding on your moms birthday just to piss her off, and go "&&" and "(( ))", it doesn't sound like you are mature enough for this step. But if you really think you are ready, just wait it out, or be more honest with your mom, try and act mature about it too. If you're turning 18 in December well then just move in with him, if you're getting married you need to be living together anyways. If he is still getting grounded at the age of 17, and you're not allowed to see your boyfriend or fiance or whatever it is, then maybe you and your mom have trust issues with this guy, try and work that out before you go and get married.
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Well that was a really immature answer below me, she obviously has NO idea. Anyways, it's really a sad situation for both of you to be in. I'm not sure where you live, but here in Texas, when you turn 18, you can get your license straight away without having to have a parent in the car. So, look into that with your boyfriend because I'm sure that once he turns 18 in May, yall might be able to see each other more. About the whole engagement thing, I don't think you should tell your mother, if you were to tell her - she would probably call you stupid as well, and then you won't be able to see your fiance period, and that'll just be NO good.
Until May 7th, I'm not sure what to tell you. You have to sit down and talk to your mom and tell her how much you miss your boyfriend, and how much you just want to spend a little bit of time with him, even if that means only spending a few hours with him at his house. It may be a little awkward and you may think it's a dumb idea because she "won't understand" but if she has the least respect for you being her daughter she'll at least try and put her self in your shoes, because I bet that she might have gone through something like this as well. Let her know it'll be supervised and that you won't do anything dumb. Gain her trust by asking her a week in advance, set a time, and everything so you don't have to interrupt her schedule.
If and when he gets his own place, your mom won't need to know that he lives by himself. You seriously need to check up on when he can get his license, because I'm sure then you'll be home free & everything will be a lot better for the both of you.
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you guys dont have your drivers liscense? sorry, but that whole "relationship" thing that you got going there looks like its goind down the toilet. imagine this, you marry him, 10 years later theres 7 kids, hes got no job becuase he cant drive, and your mother is still pissed off at you for having your wedding on her birhtday
hhmm..fun!!!
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