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suicide
my friend has been messaging me on myspace about all her problems, and she said that lately she has been thinking about suicide and death alot. she doesnt think that anyone would care if she died. i have no idea what to say to her!? help..
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you need to tell how much you care. whatever you do dont tell her that her problems arent that big because to her they're huge, really help her through this show her that your there for her. she needs your support-let her vent and you need to listen really listen, but dont push her let her talk whens shes ready.
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do everythign they sid below but also have her go to counseling and have her call the suicide hotline. i believe its 1201262help not 100% possitive. or you cna even call it to for advice
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Tell her that you care and not only do you care let her know she's loved and accepted. I have read that most people who are talking about suicide a lot are not the ones who usually end up commiting it in the end.
Next tell her no matter what her problems are that she needs to tell someone and get it out into the open. Tell her you will do everything you can to help her out.
You should also tell her that she may have depression and that if she saw someone to talk about her problems and were put on medication that perhaps life would be a lot better for her.
Try presenting her with a ton of options and choices to get her to ask someone for help. You also should tell her that no matter how HUGE a problem seems to be or what the situation is that it can be dealt and that death is final but problems are always temporary. Then reiterate how much people do love her.
There are secrets that kids should never keep from their parents and this falls into that category for sure. If she has been e-mailing with her thoughts on death, suicide and her problems print them out and have your parents monitor your accounts and act if they feel she is in danger.
They can approach her parents and tell them they had printed them out when they accidentally saw them. Sure your friend will be annoyed but in the end you may save her.
Also, you could go to your teacher or guidance counsellor and tell them and they could handle it. At either rate I think you need to let adults close to you and her to know of this potentially deadly situation. That's what I would do if I were in your shoes. This is some serious stuff she's e-mailing you with and not something to hide from your family.
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hey
first off, don't say ANYTHING like, "you don't have the guts" or "no you wouldn't." it would only make her feel worse & make her want to do it more.
if i were you, i'd tell her that i'm here for her & SERIOUSLY try to help her with her problems. if she's having issues with her grades, i'd study with her, if she's having issues with her family, i'd invite her over a lot.
next, i'd tell a trusted adult. not a school guidance counselor, but a parent (if you trust & love your parents and don't have parental issues). i tell my dad everything & he is always there to give me good advice. mom or dad -- just tell someone. even if it's an older sibling. get help for your friend.
she needs it.
always ask how she's doing. be like, "aw you look so pretty today!" but you gotta say it the MOMENT you see her, or she might not believe you. but don't overdo it. tell her that one of the guys she thinks is cute / hot / likes looked at her & smiled at her during class / in the hallway. anything to make her feel more noticed & cared for.
i hope i helped & good luck with your friend.
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well if she thinks no one would care if she died tell her that you would care and that you would never be able to forgive her if she did and yourself if you dont do anything to stop her.
I hope i helped and i wish you and your friend good luck
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