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Friend? hmmm..
I have been best friends with lisa ever since third grade. We were inseperable until this year (freshamn H.S). She got her first boyfriend in the beginning on the year and its been downhill from there. ahhg. She's now very arrogant and acting as if she's SO "experienced" and can get any guy that walks in her path which is untrue. She will not sit next to me in after school activities or social places like in the lunch room, but she'll sit with her friend natalie who is friends with the crowd her boyfriend is in. It's really hurtful that she is now a totally different person wanting to dress differently, acts like a cocky witch, shoves her new "friendships" in my face, acts like i don't exist if i'm around her in social situations, and expects me to be there for her through and through. She makes me feel like CRAP plain and simple. I have other friends, but is it worth it to keep with one?
thanks =/
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well since she has changed so much, you should ask yourself if you even do want her back as a bestfriend? I know its hard right now, but just say your friend does break up with her boyfriend (i'm not saying anytime soon, but its possibly) she'll prob. be running back to you. and its up to you to be there for her or not. Its hard when friends find other people to take your place, and it does plain and simple suck. But just don't treat her how shes treating you b/c that'll just make things even worst. I would say just to talk to her about that, but in some siuttuations thats not the best idea b/c your friend MAY take it in the wrong way and get all mad at you. Just try to forget about her other friends and just try to focus on your relationship. Also try to find other friends, if shes found others then so can you.
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Your friend isn't being a very good friend. If you are a friend to her, and she isn't one back, then really she shouldn't be worth your time. Sadly, friendships like this happen. Everyone changes time and again, when girls get their first boy-friend, they act different because they feel different...(XD Or atleast I did, but I was still kind to my friends and was still friends with them) To me, I would still be "friendly" to her, but I wouldn't be friends. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped!
~Vera
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The same thing is happening with me but you have to ask yourself, is this friendship worth all the pain your going through right now? If she was a real friend wouldn't she want to include you and keep in informed all the time? I don't want to say "dump her as a friend" but just pull away from her for a bit, let her figure out what she's losing and if she chooses her "new" life over a lifetime best friend then I don't the think decision should be hard. Good Luck though. Its hard when people decide to change.
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From what you described, this "friend" is not a friend. Heck, they aren't even a person in my book. She ditched you, a life-long friend (well... almost life-long), just to go hang with her new boyfriend and new friends. If she didn't want to be your friend anymore, she should have told you. In my opinion, the friendship was over the moment it began. Okay, so not that harsh, but it was over the moment she got a boyfriend.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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