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i screwed up... pretty urgent
15/f
me and my best guy friend started a friends with benefits relationship but we want to keep it a secret and that was a mutual decision. this has been going on for about 5months now. it has been rediculously hard not to tell my best girl friend and normally i tell her EVERYTHING. while talking to a friend of both of ours i accidentally sliped and spilled the truth to her. she was fine with it and she's a very trustworthy friend and i know she would never tell anyone about us. for about 2weeks i hadn't told my guy friend that one of our friends knew about us. finally yesterday i told him because i don't want to keep things from him. he got mad but played it off just like "w/e doesn't matter" but then when he was leaving he didn't say goodbye. he doesn't know it but i really like him alot, more than just a friend. im in love with him. i don't want to screw anything up because i really believe we have a good chance at a romantic relationship. i apologized to him many times about spilling the beans but i dont think he understands how hard it is to keep it a secret that long from my best friend either. i can sense that he's still mad and i don't know how to show him how much i really love him because we've said "i love you" to each other but it was just as friends. i know this probably sounds confusing but all im asking is how to have a meaningful apology so he'll know i'm really sorry and i really care.
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Just tell him how you feel about him, and tell him you're sorry.
I'm sure he'll come around. But in my OPINION: friends with benefits is a bad idea. One person falls in love, the other one doesn't & people get hurt.
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Wow,
ok well just tell him. Even though we're friends with benefits i can't keep that a secret from my best friend. It's impossible. And if he gets mad then maybe he's not worth it because if he wants it a secret what's the point?
You could just tell him i'm really sorry for telling my BEST friend but i really do love you and i'm sorry i messed up. People make mistakes and i'm really sorry. Please forgive me...and what ever else you want to say
just make sure you tell him EXACTLY what you're sorry for; cause guys don't always get the point.
If talking to him doesn't work then give him space and time. And if you both really love each other...you'll figure it out.
Hope this helps!
-stephanie
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First of all, I'd stop being his 'friend with benefits' if you want to be more. He won't respect you if you just throw yourself around.
Secondly, I'd tell him. He can only react one of three ways. He can like you back and you two get together, or you two will remain as friends like before you became friends with benefits, OR, it'll ruin your relationship.
If you really like him all that much, you'll summon the guts to tell him, regardless of what you think the answer will be.
If you aren't ready to spill the beans about your feelings to him so soon, start dropping hints, first.
And be sure, what ever you do, remember to do it GENTLY.
Meaning, saying:
"I don't want to be your whore anymore, but I want to be your girlfriend." MIGHT not be the best way to break it to him.
Best of luck
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